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I've known a few happy marriages like this ~ and one of them was in reverse, with the woman being much older than her husband (and she was homely, too). To each his own.
But it damn sure isn't for me. I've always kept my age limits ~ younger or older ~ within 5 years and never budged. I've never wanted involvement with a man much older than myself. I always figured that I had plenty of time to grow old with one.
And I wouldn't trust a much younger one, I'll tell you that.
If I saw a woman with old man as much old as her father I would think the love people have is limitless. I understand your friend in a way because I know the feelings to be taken care of by the others, especially by a loved one. The thing is, if you are the third person, it is not a real matter to give a judgment on it, it is the matter of the family round him or her. People too much intervene other people's lives, nowadays and they want to give a definition of love or make a "moral" line on others' lives. I think what they do to others is meaningless.
i am 32 years old and my spouse is 66 an we have been together for 7 years .. and we are very happy ! no friction an niether of us like the typical game playing that some choose to do to each other.. we were out of the country one time coming back thru customs an the customs guy said this is sweet your traveling with your dad .. i said no he said your grandpa i said no he said your boss i said no i said my husband .. an he said wow .. an just stopped looking at our passports an wanted to know why i was with him it was pretty funny my spouse didn't think so .. .. then the customs guy said well if you ever get rid of dad .. i will be stationed right here for the next 5 yrs .. so look me up an my spouse replied i'm not real worried about that happening ... but that just comes with the territory !!
I am very open-minded, I wouldn't think twice about younger dating much older. I saw an interesting documentary on BBC, about couples in England where the woman was much older. The guys were in their 20's and the women were in their 40's, 50's, one was 70! I thought it was great, they were doing their own thing and not trying to please society. None of them were rich!
As far as having to take care of someone when they're older, young people get sick with cancer and disease also, there is not guarantee that if you marry someone your own age or younger that they're not going to get sick! After my grandmother passed away, my grandfather had a girlfriend in her 60's and he was in his 80's. She got stomach cancer and died! He was healthy up until he died at age 95.
True love is ageless!
I am very open-minded, I wouldn't think twice about younger dating much older. I saw an interesting documentary on BBC, about couples in England where the woman was much older. The guys were in their 20's and the women were in their 40's, 50's, one was 70! I thought it was great, they were doing their own thing and not trying to please society. None of them were rich!
As far as having to take care of someone when they're older, young people get sick with cancer and disease also, there is not guarantee that if you marry someone your own age or younger that they're not going to get sick! After my grandmother passed away, my grandfather had a girlfriend in her 60's and he was in his 80's. She got stomach cancer and died! He was healthy up until he died at age 95.
True love is ageless!
I agree. I've buried so many exes that if I were to end up with someone significantly older, I wouldn't think twice. If he dies first, I'll manage somehow..
Out of curiosity: if you saw a woman walking down the street with a man who could perhaps be as old as her father, older uncle, or even grandfather, what would you think if you saw them holding hands and kissing romantically?
I just wonder how the general public views this kind of relationship.
Probably think the guy has good game and hope I'm as squared away as he is when I reach that age.
A friend of mine with whom I recently became reaquainted after losing touch for a year or two begrudgingly revealed to me that she was involved with a much older man. She is 32 (but her appearance is so youthful that she still gets carded), and he is 65. I say begrudgingly because, I suppose, since we hadn't spoken in a while, perhaps she thought I would judge her unfairly or harshly, which was not the case. To each her own, whatever floats your boat [insert desired cliche here].
Anyway, my question here is about judgment; since I know this particular woman, I am aware of certain issues that she has. Therefore, I know she is not a "gold-digger" or any other negative stereotype that some might place on a younger woman who dates a much older man. I know she definitely has concerns about being "taken care of," but I mean that as in emotionally, not financially. So, regardless of my friend in particular, as a whole, how does society view a woman dating a man that much older than her?
Out of curiosity: if you saw a woman walking down the street with a man who could perhaps be as old as her father, older uncle, or even grandfather, what would you think if you saw them holding hands and kissing romantically?
I just wonder how the general public views this kind of relationship.
Hi,
I hope this helps, but it may make things worse (I have that effect sometimes). I am 63 and a university professor teaching in China. I am currently dating a 27 year old teacher. I had been going out with a much older woman (32) a year before this, but I broke up with her because she desperate to have a kid and I have no interest in having any more kids (I have two grown adult kids already in their thirties). The woman I am dating now also wants to have a child, so I have come to the conclusion that I cannot continue dating women in this age range unless I am willing to compromise and have another child. I really dont want to date anyone over 40 (have been there and done that). They are just not as sexually active enough for me. I know it is not their fault because of menopause and dryness and all of those other unfortunate biological effects of aging. I have a few myself; I color my grey hair black like every other person in China, I work out a bit, but still cant shed that little belly you get after fifty. I need Cialis or I would not be writing this at all; it is truly the miracle drug for men in this century. And my skin is getting a bit saggy in some areas. However, my girlfriend thinks I am cute and is quite happy with my active lifestyle (and the Cialis). This is all fine and dandy for now, but what will things be like 20 years from now (I still think I will be around)? Well I still plan to play tennis and jog, but I will probably do it a bit slower and that goes for sex, too. She (or someone her age) would be 47 and homing in on about age 50 which generally means the end of the line for heavy sexual activity for most women I have met. I am sure whomever it is will be getting the short end of the stick (I only mean this figuratively, of course), because they will practically be a nurse instead of a wife by that time. When I leave the stage, there will be precious few chances for a fifty something to reenter the dating scene from the female side in China and even fewer chances in the US. I do really regret that, but I am not going to lose sleep over it. After all, one has to think positively, doesn't one?
I beg to differ about women over 40 having a lack of sexual desire due to dryness / menopause, etc. I'm almost 44 and would love to have sex 3 or more times a week if possible. If the guy is willing, I'd happily oblige on a daily basis. Never had a dryness problem. Not sure when menopause will hit, but nothing has slowed me down yet when it comes to sex. I guess I do not fit the stereotype of women my age. ??? I am happily single, no children, financially self-sufficient, and love men of all ages!
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what I think of them is....
.. then the customs guy said well if you ever get rid of dad .. i will be stationed right here for the next 5 yrs .. so look me up an my spouse replied i'm not real worried about that happening ... 
Im 63 and she is 27- OMG!
