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If you go around looking to be offended, you will be sure to find someone who does offend you! Why not just assume the best of people OP? You don't know what conversations are taking place between your colleagues so you can't assume that boyfriends are being brought up as a slight to you.
Surely if you weren't interested anyway, you should be able to shrug it off?
It's happened to me at work.
I've spoken with female colleagues and in conversation they've said "My boyfriend...." as if they're telegraphing the message that they are "spoken for". I really don't care, as I don't date coworkers - never have, never will!
To me, if it's in conversation, then they more than likely do actually have a boyfriend. Granted, this is from my experience.
It's when you ask them out, and they say that they have a boyfriend is where they possibly could be lying to turn you down.
For me it's the opposite. Women going out of their way to tell me places they like to go, or telling me they are single or free to "hangout" through massive hints. Now has this worked to my advantage at times absolutely but it can also be annoying when I'm not attracted to the woman at all.
No offense but most women get really annoyed and borderline offended when guys who aren't on their level try to talk to them in that way. Even if you weren't(like you said op) if they perceive you are about to they try to dead that VERY quickly(well I have a boyfriend/I'm not really trying to date right now etc)
For me it's the opposite. Women going out of their way to tell me places they like to go, or telling me they are single or free to "hangout" through massive hints. Now has this worked to my advantage at times absolutely but it can also be annoying when I'm not attracted to the woman at all.
No offense but most women get really annoyed and borderline offended when guys who aren't on their level try to talk to them in that way. Even if you weren't(like you said op) if they perceive you are about to they try to dead that VERY quickly(well I have a boyfriend/I'm not really trying to date right now etc)
And now we're talking about the real world. This is what is happening, but apparently, a bunch of women on here don't understand this situation.
Now, they've deadened my basic conversation, but don't do that to my good-looking male friends. It's just interesting to note.
All the folks on here who lack basic reading comprehension keep missing that core point.
And now we're talking about the real world. This is what is happening, but apparently, a bunch of women on here don't understand this situation.
Now, they've deadened my basic conversation, but don't do that to my good-looking male friends. It's just interesting to note.
All the folks on here who lack basic reading comprehension keep missing that core point.
It's a selective "boyfriend mention."
For the gazillionth time, we ARE aware of the "I have a boyfriend" sidestep.
What you describe is pretty much all the time and that's what's different between you and most men I've known (or probably, most of us have known and we do feel that warrants further investigation, if this is really bothering you (which quite obviously, it is). Further, you insist you know that EACH time it's happening, it's SPECIFICALLY to turn you away and not just part of the conversation. That seems unlikely unless there is some other circumstance, for example, you are coming off as "coming on" even if you don't think you are...an idea that you stomp around and freak out over, so I guess that's out.
This is all what you, yourself, are failing to understand, or don't want to understand.
Yes OP, sometimes we lie and only say we have a BF because we do not want to go out with a specific individual. That is true.
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Nope. I would only go there if a guy was being overly aggressive or coming on to me in an obvious way.
I would only bring up my relationship status if if had something to do with the conversation.
Since most casual conversations involve what you are doing I think it's probably common to bring up another if you are going to hang out later or are sharing what you are doing on the weekend.
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