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Trying to prop up a person who is extremely insecure becomes exhausting after a while. You can't fix someone's insecurities. They have to do that themselves.
And having no support from one's partner is a fabulous start to overcoming insecurity.
If the OP cannot recognize this, then yes, best to leave the guy to someone who will actually be supportive.
Same with men. Plenty of men hate women having hair on anything but their head. Some, I eve hear saying women are "supposed to be" smooth and hairless.
The hairless trend has been going on now on both sides where many people now are just repulsed by the sight of body hair.
Yep, that's correct. Many men seem to want a prepubescent look on a woman.
What a far cry from how things were when I was a teen or even earliest adulthood.
I'm honestly not sure but it's a combo of his weight and hairiness. I've seen him shirtless once when he was in the bathroom and he doesn't have any rashes or scars. Next time we are about to have sex I'm going to try and take off his shirt and if he stops me I'll confront him.
Honestly I think you just have to tell him you'd really enjoy it if he took his shirt off with you. Even tell him you love a man with hair his hair and body etc.. Give him confidence with it as it sounds as if that's what's going on.
I can have a good bit of hair that I don't care for either, that's why I trim/shave it. I love having my shirt off. Very comfortable. I like looking good with it off also though. I exercise like a mad man so I don't like to feel insecure with my shirt off.
I'd imagine the issues is an insecurity with him.
Last edited by Mikelee81; 08-16-2016 at 07:24 PM..
I would have gone against all the advise given here and just take his shirt off when we get naked next time. Not after 9 months though, probably after the 3rd time doing the loveydovey thing. And if he refuses, I would turn the lights off to make him feel better and next time I leave them on.
This is what I'm going to do. I know its hard to believe from this post, but we are close to one another and talk about everything I've just been avoiding this but I don't want to anymore. If he tries to stop me I'm going to tell him I want us to be completely intimate and I think he's perfectly handsome the way he is. I think at that point he's going to give in but if not that's okay too. It's not a deal breaker
He's probably accustom to quickies, thus, the shirt remains on.
How long does he last in bed, OP?
Surprisingly a long time. He's the first guy I've slept with that actually makes me orgasm before he does and really cares about my pleasure. The previous partners I've had were more focused on themselves
This is what I'm going to do. I know its hard to believe from this post, but we are close to one another and talk about everything I've just been avoiding this but I don't want to anymore. If he tries to stop me I'm going to tell him I want us to be completely intimate and I think he's perfectly handsome the way he is. I think at that point he's going to give in but if not that's okay too. It's not a deal breaker
Go for it. You have already decided it is not a deal breaker, so the downside is very limited.
MANY times it takes a firm nudge to get someone over the top, and you only need to succeed once. If you succeed, then the road is clear; if you fail you can try something else, later.
Just rip his shirt off and oil him up for a massage. How can sex even be enjoyable when his back and chest are off limits? How do people live like this...?
Just rip his shirt off. How can sex even be enjoyable when his back and chest are off limits? How do people live like this...?
Would you say the same thing if a woman didn't want to have her bra off during sex, and then suggest having the guy just rip it off?
Obviously, the guy likely has some hangups, but at the end of the day, you can't/shouldn't force him (or anyone) to do something they don't want to do.
Just rip his shirt off. How can sex even be enjoyable when his back and chest are off limits? How do people live like this...?
What do you mean by off limits? It really doesn't alter the experience that much..
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You have already decided it is not a deal breaker, so the downside is very limited.
