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At least in terms of high schoolers, the "common wisdom" was that girls are more mature than boys of the same age so dating up a year or two is typical. Of course it can become an issue if one is "of age" and the other is not though most laws also stipulate as long as the gap is less than a certain number of years it doesn't matter if one is underage. But check your state laws to be sure!
It just kind of gave me pause that the OP would worry about "creepiness," especially with them only two years apart (according to the OP)...teens don't typically worry about being creepy when they date a year or two apart, at least in my experience. It's much older people who tend to worry about creepiness as regards age.
Not every single time. The OP's scenario is legit and happens all the time. What are the odds of finding someone EXACTLY your age to the day? It's just something that popped into my mind because I've seen this argument here so many times, stretched and stretched by the years with "but what about..." examples given in the extreme. What about if the guy was only 34 and the girl's 18th birthday was in 12 hours but they had their first date that night, ZOMG I knew a guy who was thrown into jail for that, etc. etc...like that.
But no. In the OP's actual, legitimate situation, it isn't "creepy" for a 19-year-old to date a 17-year old and I am pretty mystified by a very young person (age 19) using that particular word/designation or even thinking such a thing. Never heard of that. There's a first time for everything!
When I was 19 I wanted nothing to do with anyone who wasn't in college yet, but if I did there would have been nothing wrong with it.
I have a feeling you may come off as creepy for other reasons given that you asked this, but you wouldn't come off as creepy just for dating a girl ~2 years younger than you.
I knew a guy that always dated about 3 years younger (dated freshmen as a sr in HS) and it was nothing until I found out he was waiting outside of a high school to pick up his 17 year old GF when he was 23. Nothing wrong with a man in his 20s/30s being attracted to a 17 year old physically, but actually wanting to spend time with one? Dude has issues.
When I was 19 I wanted nothing to do with anyone who wasn't in college yet, but if I did there would have been nothing wrong with it.
I have a feeling you may come off as creepy for other reasons given that you asked this, but you wouldn't come off as creepy just for dating a girl ~2 years younger than you.
I knew a guy that always dated about 3 years younger (dated freshmen as a sr in HS) and it was nothing until I found out he was waiting outside of a high school to pick up his 17 year old GF when he was 23. Nothing wrong with a man in his 20s/30s being attracted to a 17 year old physically, but actually wanting to spend time with one? Dude has issues.
Eh...I'm sure lots of adult men were attracted to 17 year old Britney Spears and would've wanted to "spend time" with her. But I don't see a problem with a 17/19 year old.
I did it even though it was technically illegal in California. (i didnt care lol) At that age, it was a little bit creepy because a 2 year age gap, especially one is an "adult" and the other is a "minor", is rather big IMO. I remember I felt like a creep because she was still in high school and I was in college. But as an adult in his early 30's, looking back at it, feeling creepy was silly. A 2 year age gap in today's society is nothing at all.
I have high schoolers 2 years apart. I know my son and his friends think it's extremely creepy when boys his age (17-18) date girls his sister's age (15-16). We've talked specifically about this - they think it's the creepy, desperate upperclassman who goes after the naive younger girl who wants to "be cool." Not a good combo (of course there are exceptions). He has only dated girls in his class. But maybe this perceived creepiness diminishes when kids age a few years. But my son and his HS friends do have a very negative reaction towards this.
God forbid my daughter were in this situation. I would NOT want my 17 y.o. dating a college student.
When I was 19 I wanted nothing to do with anyone who wasn't in college yet, but if I did there would have been nothing wrong with it.
I have a feeling you may come off as creepy for other reasons given that you asked this, but you wouldn't come off as creepy just for dating a girl ~2 years younger than you.
I knew a guy that always dated about 3 years younger (dated freshmen as a sr in HS) and it was nothing until I found out he was waiting outside of a high school to pick up his 17 year old GF when he was 23. Nothing wrong with a man in his 20s/30s being attracted to a 17 year old physically, but actually wanting to spend time with one? Dude has issues.
Is it weird for a 19 year old to spend time with a 17 year old?
You have asked twice, so obviously no matter what anyone else may think, you feel a sense of creepiness/weirdness in there somewhere.
So you have your answer.
No, I don't feel a sense of creepiness tbh, and besides I knew her before I went off to college.
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