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OP…..if YOU don't think it's "creepy" (even that choice of word to describe it is interesting, but nevermind on that)….then ask the girl out.
Depending on how your birthdays fall you might not even be "two years" apart.
If you're 19 and she's going to turn 18 you're not two years apart.
You're a freshman in college? She's a senior? that puts her one year behind you in school. So what!?
I'm surprised there's even this much debate about this.
How many times do you have to be told -- it's OK. You even say:" But many people around me have said it's ok though."
YOU are the one who's hesitating…..Why? Because you're afraid someone you don't even know while think some way about a two age difference, that MANY NOT EVEN BE a full two years.
Here's a life lesson: Unless a person knows YOU to the core, is a close. loving relative -- OR -- a boss who signs your paycheck -- get over caring "what people think."
This is NOT a big deal….heck it's not even ANY size deal, it's no issue at all. You're creating an issue where one doesn't exist.
How many times do you have to be told that?
This is off base and a little uncalled for, taking the OP on face value what's so wrong about a 19 yr old, most who don't know jack about life, being curios and wanting to find out what is right or wrong. Double checking on things isn't a bad idea, especially since she may be jailbait, for lack of a better term.
Maybe being hypercritical of a young man by someone older is "creepy", I know I'm more creeped out by your post than the OP's.
The two of you knew each other in high school and were friends. I doubt there would have been any problem with you dating her then. If you were dating her then, it wouldn't have seemed creepy for you to keep dating her once you were in college. Pretty much the same applies now.
I think this poster is trying to say there's a power imbalance due to high school v. college, and under some circumstances I might agree (especially if the girl is in the earlier years of high school and the boy is in his later years of college), but in this particular one, I don't know....
Yes, that is what I'm trying to say...
This Slate article covers a research study that speaks to this power imbalance. An interesting read...
"Unsurprisingly, the majority of high school boys want to have sex (though only 47.6 percent of freshmen boys do). Unsurprisingly, the majority of high school girls do not (though 50.1 percent of senior girls do). Over the course of four years, the power shifts from the freshman girls who don't want to have sex to the senior boys who do.
The conclusion? Though high-school girls don't really want to have sex, many more of them end up doing so in order to "match" with a high-school boy. For them, a relationship at some point becomes more important than purity. Because of that phenomenon, in schools with more boys than girls, the girls hold more cards and have less sex. Where there are more girls, the male preference for sex tends to win out.
Among senior girls, what's valuable and scarce are boys willing to have a relationship without having sex.
And who does the high-school dating system disadvantage most, statistically? Senior girls, at least according to the skew between stated sexual preferences and actual sexual activity."
I think this power imbalance will only be exacerbated when it is a senior girl dating a college student.
I'm still good with my belief that my 17 y.o. daughter dating a 19 y.o. college freshman would be a very bad idea. But obviously some here have had good experiences with this scenario.
So you want a real relationship with this girl or more of a hook-up?
Have you tried dating anyone in college?
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