Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
You were married when you were seeing her...no? "Fully separated" is a funny expression cheating guys use.
Nothing else explains your urgency to keep house with her. You could have just dated and not screwed with 4 childhoods.
Wife left me, refused to even talk about counseling, she was sleeping with another guy but that really is besides the point.. she was gone and divorce was started before I dated this girl..
Anyway, I know I shouldn't have done this, but I'm looking for advice moving forward, not looking back as unfortunately the past is immutable.
No...what seems to have happened is he was seeing this little bint on the side, wife found out, kicked him out and he had to justify the affair by pretending it was a legit relationship. So when she pressured him to move in he couldn't say no.
Quote:
Originally Posted by evol7
Wrong, I was fully separated before I started seeing her. The divorce is really not related to this situation other than that after 10 years of being married I didn't want to be lonely..
come to think of it, I was involved with a man similar to you over the summer. He had just gotten out of a 8 year relationship and seemed to want to get pretty serious with me. I do have a kid, but I was clear that he wouldn't meet him until I knew things were getting serious. He was saying that he wanted to take care of me, that he wanted me to meet his family, etc... and this was just after 1.5 months of dating. It ended because he figured out he wasn't ready for a relationship yet - that he was just lonely. That, and he was a lying a-hole.
Wow. I don't get this. At all. First of all, what on earth would possess you to want to live with someone so quickly after a divorce, why, just why? Have people not heard of dating for at least a few years before moving in, especially when their are kids involved. How does she get away with not working? I will never get women like this, I have always worked full time, and I can't imagine not or assuming a guy will support me. I've been married for years and my husband and I still have separate bank accounts, split the bills, pay for our own things.
Advice to you, she won't change. She is who she is, lazy and entitled, either deal with it, or leave. I feel mostly sorry for the kids here. Are you so scared to be alone you have to jump into relationships like this? You might want to think about that. You can't go through your whole life being afraid of being alone. When this relationship ends ( and it will eventually), please be single for at least a year. Getting in a relationship out of fear of being lonely never ends well.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
