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She should have ordered something less expensive. Or at least offer to pay. I would have said "Let me pay for at least half, since I really, really like the lobster here". The "but you invited her" is not a hall pass to order one of the most expensive items on the menu. It is outrageous to expect you to pay for that.
I would dump her. If you don't, be prepared to be broke soon.
Yeah, this! Are you up for, and can you afford, a high-maintenance babe? If no, move on. Ordering the most expensive thing on the menu was just flat out rude. She sounds like a dinner *****. And yes, that IS a thing. I remember a popular NYC radio station talking about this a few years ago and I was disgusted by the number of women calling in and admitting that often went out with guys, in who they had no real romantic interests, just to get a free, nice dinner - while laughing about it. When questioned about it, they said they provided the guy with great conversation, etc. so they weren't just being "takers". I am dead serious. Luckily, not all women are like that, but they are out there. Not sure if this was a first date or just the first dinner but in the future, you might start out with a cup of coffee, a walk in the park, a free cultural event, bike ride, or something like that before committing to dinner.
You know damn well she wouldn't have ordered that if she had to pay for it. Toss her.
Bingo!
When people show you their true character like this, it is best to pay attention. $50 could have bought the OP oral in most cities in the US so I hope he got something for his money.
OP, if you haven't figured it out by now you were played like a sucker. This woman is not interested in you.
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Yeah, this! Are you up for, and can you afford, a high-maintenance babe? If no, move on. Ordering the most expensive thing on the menu was just flat out rude. She sounds like a dinner *****. And yes, that IS a thing. I remember a popular NYC radio station talking about this a few years ago and I was disgusted by the number of women calling in and admitting that often went out with guys, in who they had no real romantic interests, just to get a free, nice dinner - while laughing about it. When questioned about it, they said they provided the guy with great conversation, etc. so they weren't just being "takers". I am dead serious. Luckily, not all women are like that, but they are out there. Not sure if this was a first date or just the first dinner but in the future, you might start out with a cup of coffee, a walk in the park, a free cultural event, bike ride, or something like that before committing to dinner.
What makes people think it was the most expensive thing on the menu? At steak or seafood places, I don't think I generally see steak/lobster combos as being the most expensive, but perhaps that's because I live by the sea in New England and lobster isn't that pricey.
This is actually true, yes, you can rack up $50 with all said, but again...then how is this all the woman's fault, either? If all her stuff was going to cost $50 does she just not do the appetizer or what...? How complicated really is this supposed to be? It's supposed to be a pleasant day or night out.
Should this guy be going out at all if he has to fear spending $50 somehow or other, even for just an average date?
Just do coffee next time! It bears repeating.
There is no fault here.
She certainly she could order whatever she desires....
On the other hand...
He certainly can drop her as well. If he felt that there is a lack of consideration, she is feeling him out financially, and/or using him, then it is a valid concern and perfectly justified not to see her again.
If the outcome isn't what she wanted, then that's her problem.... The fact that the OP is posting his concern here shows there was a miss-step here. There are women who do dates for free meals and such... that is well known. The last thing a genuinely interested lady should do is act like those women.
That's how I would take it and I am sure I am not the only one. The only thing that would salvage that situation is if she acknowledged it and showed great character by offering to pay... allows him an "out" of the situation and a way back to his comfort zone; by either accepting her offer or by declining politely, paying for it anyways.
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Bingo!
When people show you their true character like this, it is best to pay attention. $50 could have bought the OP oral in most cities in the US so I hope he got something for his money.
Oh man, that's gross. Talk about character.
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