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Originally Posted by zentropa
OK, so what if it played out this way:
The couple is feeling great, they really like each other. The mood is high. Waiter comes to the table, reads out the specials, everything sounds delicious. No one knows the price of the specials, and no one's going to ask. (Lobster is typically Market Price on the menu.)
Waiter asks the female customer her order first as is custom. She orders the surf and turf because it's a special occasion/celebration night (It was the Valentine Special. Did she even notice the price?) and she believes OP is in the same mood (maybe he ooo'd and ahh'd over the waiter reading the specials?)
Then OP orders the halibut, and ooof. It's too late. OP is cool until he gets the bill and sees the Market Price. Then he starts to ruminate, he posts, disappears, and the rest is CD history.
Wouldn’t happen to me, I’d stop it right then and there and say what is the market price, and say we have a problem and if she is that hard up over having lobster, she can either pay it her damn self or the date ends then and there.
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Originally Posted by Electrician4you
You won’t ALLOW her to order x meal? If that’s your “example” it is a joke. At least that’s how I read it. Truthfully any woman that has a ounce of self esteem would get up and walk out. If you invite someone out you are making a unspoken offering to pay for the meal. If you can’t afford it don’t invite people out.
Not on MY dime, that is key here. Hey promises get busted all the time and subject to conditions. Affording it ain’t the damn problem, it is the PRINCIPLE of the thing.
Last edited by The Dissenter; 02-15-2018 at 11:43 PM..
I feel I'm so different than most men these days about paying for dates. Back in high school and College, I had no problem blowing upwards to $200 on one date (dinner, entertainment, etc), and I wasn't that well off, either. I had a part time job in high school only making $17 an hour, but come payday....pshhh its party time
I'm a big spender when I want to have fun with someone.
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Originally Posted by hawaiiancoconut
I feel I'm so different than most men these days about paying for dates. Back in high school and College, I had no problem blowing upwards to $200 on one date (dinner, entertainment, etc), and I wasn't that well off, either. I had a part time job in high school only making $17 an hour, but come payday....pshhh its party time
I'm a big spender when I want to have fun with someone.
Well good for you. You weren’t an adult who had bills to pay so you were in a good position to get taken advantage of by a woman for “fun”. Us adults with rent and bills aren’t in that position.
What if she ordered the halibut, but also a cocktail or glass of wine? That's pretty common for adults.
On V Day my date and I ordered drinks at the bar while we waited for our table. It was $20 for one cocktail and one soda. $50 is not a lot for a restaurant meal, especially not on Valentine's Day OR for steak & lobster (in fact, it's cheap for steak & lobster).
I'm wondering how a woman could eat a whole lobser AND a steak. Not to mention the baked potato, or whatever was on the side.
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Wasn't necessarily a whole lobster.Many combo dishes just serve the tail all nicely split open for you or even out of the shell.
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Originally Posted by usayit
I personally order the 48 ounce steaks at the local steakhouse and take 3/4ths home.... Always end up cheaper and I always need leftovers. But if someone else was treating I certainly would offer to pay the 42 dollar cost....
A 4 lb steak ???
Just imagine the comments if his date had ordered that!
I feel I'm so different than most men these days about paying for dates. Back in high school and College, I had no problem blowing upwards to $200 on one date (dinner, entertainment, etc), and I wasn't that well off, either. I had a part time job in high school only making $17 an hour, but come payday....pshhh its party time
I'm a big spender when I want to have fun with someone.
200 isn't a big deal for me either... I feel fortunate that I can afford it on the rare occasion. I spent more than that this past night... Treated some my friends. Thing is, I have known them a long time and given individual situations they show great appreciation.... Always have whenever the occasion arises. I know they are not trying to hustle me
But if it was the first dinner date and she orders one of the most expensive things on the menu, she comes off as a gold digger. That's her mistake....
Gals are wary of PUA.... So guys don't act like one.
Guys are wary of gold diggers... So gals don't act like one.
How much the final cost is irrelevant.... She made the OP feel like he got hustled when all he wanted was a genuine date.
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Affording it ain’t the damn problem, it is the PRINCIPLE of the thing.
Not to mention the baked potato, or whatever was on the side.
