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So you’re in your mid 40’s and want a college age model and won’t accept anything else?
Ah, shaming tactics. No, my last girlfriend is 42, I'm 40. I can still pull women in their mid to late 20s but I'm not obsessed with age. Contrary to popular belief, we don't all suddenly turn old and ugly past 30.
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Admittedly, I wasn’t that physically attracted to my first girlfriend a couple of years ago. She didn’t look bad, just not what I would pick out as far as attraction. Let’s just say attraction was the least of the problems I had with her.
I truly don’t think it is wrong to give someone who you ain’t attracted to a chance. I’m just not inclined to do it ever again.
Ah, shaming tactics. No, my last girlfriend is 42, I'm 40. I can still pull women in their mid to late 20s but I'm not obsessed with age. Contrary to popular belief, we don't all suddenly turn old and ugly past 30.
If you can pull younger women, what’s your problem? What’s with all your insecurities?
Attraction works differently for different people, OP. I see women who I immediately feel a kind of primitive and very strong sexual attraction to, based on their appearance. Then there are women I find physically appealing, but in a more subdued way. I've gotten to know and like women in both categories (for sake of discussion, I don't really put people in categories) and at that point of liking them as people, the attraction is pretty much the same. And I'm talking before I've dated them or we've been sexual. That level of liking and lusting pretty much evened out, if there was some amount of lusting or potential for it from the start.
I sometimes wonder if some men and women experience attraction as only the immediate, almost physically uncomfortable kind, and some like me are wired to see other possibilities. If so, I feel fortunate. Or could it be that some people define attraction as only the first type, willfully or not, when they could experience the second type if they were open to it?
I experience it in both ways, but it doesn't even out as you put it. Plus the drop off from full-on attraction to vaguely attractive is really steep for me.
If you can pull younger women, what’s your problem? What’s with all your insecurities?
I'm not rich. The last girlfriend moaned and moaned endlessly about it, and she's not the first. Career wise I'm behind in life as I was ill through my mid 20s and architecture is known as the job of old men for a reason.
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So, are you planning to make it clear to these women that you don't find them attractive, you're just settling?
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