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This may fall under the "unusual pairings" category, but have you ever seen a couple out and about, the woman is dressed to the nines, while the dude is dressed like...a dude. Blue jeans, tennis shoes, and baseball cap with T-shirt (Not even a polo shirt)?
I dunno, but as a woman, would that get under your skin on a Sat night, the boyfriend dressing like a slob?
Yes, it would, unless we were going someplace where that clothing is expected like a casual barbecue or a baseball game. If he shows up like that for a "date night" kind of night like dinner at a nice restaurant and a night on the town, that would put me off.
It depends how you define 'dress nice'(ly). I have worn a suit exactly once in my entire life and felt like a complete fraud. I detest button-down shirts because they need ironing and, if I wear a new Megadeth tee that doesn't have any holes with pants that don't double as half a pair of pyjamas, I consider a fair and reasonable effort made. If you're not comfortable being seen with me like that, you're likely not my kind of human.
My "dress code" normally is dependent upon the weather and what sort of gun I need to conceal. If I need to blend in at a coat and tie affair, tee shirt and jeans is not going to suffice. Ditto if it's really cold outside.
This hits close to home for me. Back when we were dating, my wife would always dress 'nicer' than me. I am more comfortable in something like a flannel shirt and jeans while she typically dressed up a bit more. I attributed this to our career choices, as she worked in a more corporate environment and I am in academia. Now that we are married with kids, neither of us dresses up except for special occasions. Aside from an occasional recommendation that I change out of my Cannibal Corpse t-shirt to coach my 3 year old daughter's soccer team or avoid wearing my "paint clothes" out to eat she doesn't try to change my dress habits. Dressing up or going to places where dressing up is expected has never appealed to me.
If a guy wants his girlfriend to dress up and look great then he shouldn't look like a slob himself. Most women put on a little makeup, earrings, and a nice outfit for a date and I think a guy should be respectful and do that too. But it depends on the date though. A woman who "dresses to the nines" to go to an outdoor festival, ball game or other casual event--that's a little overkill.
If a guy wants his girlfriend to dress up and look great then he shouldn't look like a slob himself. Most women put on a little makeup, earrings, and a nice outfit for a date and I think a guy should be respectful and do that too.
I agree.
When I was a teenager in the 80s, my dad, who was no sensitive, fashion conscious kinda guy (but always wore nice suits to work), had noticed how my boyfriend at the time, and my friends' boyfriends, typically dressed when they picked us up to go out.
One night, he angrily said, "you girls should send those immature slobs packing. If I were a young lady, even *I* wouldn't be seen with them!"
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Originally Posted by caco54
Just back from a golf trip with eight men 55 to 67. Went to dinner at up scale restaurants ($75 per plate) and was shocked at the level of dress from some of the group. Based on what they wore they should have been mowing their lawns. No wives around to layout their clothes. No guff from the restaurant as eight guys at $75 a head covered any objections. I was disappointed in some of the group members.
IMO there is a super big difference between men aged 55 to 67 having dinner together & women expecting men to be able to dress for a date that is appropriate for the occasion.^^ Men should be able to dress themselves for work or dating…tho there are women that can’t either. If somebody is going to look & feel their best, IMO that includes being stylish & dressing appropriately for where you’re going.
It’s common sense & IMO…it says a lot about their maturity so I would never have dated a man that didn’t look stylish & manly or at least appropriate. Most successful men know how to dress even if past girlfriends or salespeople gave them tips. They get it done. It’s the boys who wear flip flops, screen tees & baseball hats on a date IMO.
Just back from a golf trip with eight men 55 to 67. Went to dinner at up scale restaurants ($75 per plate) and was shocked at the level of dress from some of the group. Based on what they wore they should have been mowing their lawns. No wives around to layout their clothes. No guff from the restaurant as eight guys at $75 a head covered any objections. I was disappointed in some of the group members.
If I'm expected to pay $75 for dinner, drinks, desserts and tips presumably not included, I'll wear what I flipping well please.
This may fall under the "unusual pairings" category, but have you ever seen a couple out and about, the woman is dressed to the nines, while the dude is dressed like...a dude. Blue jeans, tennis shoes, and baseball cap with T-shirt (Not even a polo shirt)?
I dunno, but as a woman, would that get under your skin on a Sat night, the boyfriend dressing like a slob?
nope, I do not care.
I dated a beautiful looking guy last year who mostly ran around with wife beaters on.
After a few times out and people staring at us - we were an odd couple, both tall and fit, him 20 years younger, me dressed up him not -He mentioned he should probably start wearing real T-shirts to not look like a jackass next to me in dresses and heel. I did not care. I would not have taken him home to my parents with the undershirts but other than that, did not care.
This may fall under the "unusual pairings" category, but have you ever seen a couple out and about, the woman is dressed to the nines, while the dude is dressed like...a dude. Blue jeans, tennis shoes, and baseball cap with T-shirt (Not even a polo shirt)?
I dunno, but as a woman, would that get under your skin on a Sat night, the boyfriend dressing like a slob?
No it wouldn't. Slob is in the eye of the beholder.
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Originally Posted by elnina
Seen? Yes. Would date someone like that? No - I have standards.
As if those who are fine with someone living in casual clothes have no standards? Okay.
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Originally Posted by skeddy
except for weddings and funerals you'll find me in Tshirts and joggers. I could open a store with the shirts and pants with tags on them in the closet.
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Originally Posted by bjh
I file that under: some women are so desperate to have any guy . . . they'll go along with it.
What a myopic view. I'm a casual gal. I dress appropriately for events. The rest of the time I dress in clean, comfortable, casual clothing and if people think that doesn't meet some sort of standard, they can pound sand. People seem to think that casual clothing means rips, stains, sloppy and whatnot. How weird. My casual wardrobe is not sloppy or cheap.
I will say that a person who wears a baseball cap indoors at a restaurant while eating is-- to me-- very unattractive. Some people may not mind. Those people can date the cap wearers and be happy.
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They get it done. It’s the boys who wear flip flops, screen tees & baseball hats on a date IMO.
