Wife refuses sex but watches porn when I am away. (married, men)

[NC~Mom]

If she's watching porn alone...no biggie...just spice up your sex life a little, or alot...but if someone is sneaking in watching with her while you're gone....then pack her bags.

[NMyTree]

Originally Posted by 2mares

LOL. If the sexes were reversed, the men on here would say, its perfectly natural for to watch porn all day men are visual. "He" dosent want to have sex with you because "she" gained weight or dosent keep herself sexy enough.

His comments were actually a tounge-in-cheek (or sarcasm) reference to the atitutudes, advice and opinions a lot of women were submitting in that other "Huband Caught Watching Porn" thread.

I'm fairly certain he was calling attention to particular a hypocritical and heavily biased theme in their posts.

[Lynda05125]

You posted almost the same thread over a year ago and things
have not changed, have you taken any of the advice given to you
on this form?
You say you have told her that you will leave and she said no stay,
I think she has had all the time that is needed to change her ways
tell her to leave.
If she was doing the same to you, she wouldn’t put up with it so
why should you?
Talk to her until your blue in the face,tell her how you feel and
then ask her if you did what she did would she still be there
trying to make this marriage work after 5 years of begging for sex
I bet she would have been gone in year #one.

[SKP440]

Originally Posted by NMyTree

His comments were actually a tounge-in-cheek (or sarcasm) reference to the atitutudes, advice and opinions a lot of women were submitting in that other "Huband Caught Watching Porn" thread.

I'm fairly certain he was calling attention to particular a hypocritical and heavily biased theme in their posts.

You are correct!! I actually took one of the other posts and just replaced the gender (that's all) to show how hypocritical, and biased some of the advice on here can actually get.

[bif24701]

I agree, if it were the other way around things would be very different. I just get confused when I tried to leave she refused to let me go.

What reason would she beg me to stay and then go back to the same behavor?

[NotARedneck]

Quote:
Originally Posted by Rance
You must suck in bed? Maybe you should watch some porn and pick up some tips?

Originally Posted by bif24701

It has never been a problem before, I don't assume the be a love god however I am willing to do what ever is needed. We do every thing together we used to but now with out sex.

She's into other women. Why else would she be watching this stuff while you are away. Get a sex change.

[NotARedneck]

Quote:
Originally Posted by NMyTree
It is kind of interesting how the usual females are absent from this thread.

Originally Posted by SKP440

My thoughts exactly. While keeping up with the same theme of "reverse" advice "Give her a good cry and she'll understand how it makes you feel." Also from the same thread "Be a bit stricter with her."

Its OK for women to watch porn so why would they care. Its approaching a capital offense - with 483 responses - otherwise.

[NC~Mom]

Originally Posted by bif24701

I agree, if it were the other way around things would be very different. I just get confused when I tried to leave she refused to let me go.

What reason would she beg me to stay and then go back to the same behavor?

Does she have a job, or do you pay all the bills?
She may just like the financial security.

[bif24701]

Originally Posted by NC~Mom

Does she have a job, or do you pay all the bills?
She may just like the financial security.

I do pay the bills. She just started a job however she doesn't make enough to support even our modest life style.

How would I know if this is the case? That she wants me only for the financial security?

[RichardW]

Originally Posted by SKP440

She is a woman. She probably has a rational justified reason for watching porn while you are at work. Nothing to worry about since she is in NO danger of being hooked on porn, or thinking that you should look like, or perform like the men in those movies. As a woman she is also ENTITLED to have sex when SHE FEELS LIKE it anyway, so wanting to have sex more often is rather arrogant on YOUR part. Now what I just wrote what SOME of the women in this forum have written on other past threads you seriously need to have a long talk with her and find out why she feels this way. Yes it will probably be your fault (don't be suprised you're a man and therefore you are ALWAYS held accountable for both your actions and hers as well.) If talking does not help go see a marriage counselor (one you BOTH can talk to, and one who remains NEUTRAL.)

Love the hypocrisy on this forum

Huge bias against men on here, always trying to find a way to blame them either if it is a woman complaining about a man or a man complaining about a woman. Relationships are mutual by the way, matters of sex should be mutual an not just when "she feels like it", if it is as selfish as that ditch the woman and good luck with finding someone who actually cares.

God your post is pathetic, SKP440, surely it is normal for lovers to WANT to make love, not all the time for god's sake, but you have to be judgemental enough to accuse this guy looking for solutions of being arrogant already? You should be totally ashamed of your lame nonsense on this board.