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I agree, if it were the other way around things would be very different. I just get confused when I tried to leave she refused to let me go.
What reason would she beg me to stay and then go back to the same behavor?
She is probably feeling guilty?
My question would be what kind of porn is she watching. If its a marathon of Showgirls, she might be going through a bi-curious phase.
If its different, find out what kind, or watch it with her. Find out if she's just looking for something spicy, maybe your routine has gotten stale?
Maybe she's having hormone changes and she's seeing if she's having horny problems....if porn gets her going, but you don't, maybe she's trying to figure out why?
A doctor, shrink, or councilor might be introduced at this point if she's unwilling to open herself up to you about this.
If she respected and loved you, she would include you in on her thoughts here and what she is up to. This situation includes you since she's having trouble in your nooky department, and since you are frustrated she's sneaking porn while you're away.
Be happy its just porn and not a lover, first of all. This is a way for her to figure out some things about herself. I think she needs to air her feelings here.
If she continues the sneaking with porn and your relationship does not get stronger or communication does not open up soon, I would be taking active steps to make some changes. Life is too short to keep this going this way.
For the last two years of a five year marriage my wife has refused to have sex any more than once a month or less. When we do have sex she just lays there and says hurry-up, get it over with. Now I have notice that she is looking at porn while I am at work. I am very frustrated.
Is there anything I can do?
Has anyone been in this position before?
Any advice would help.
Please help!
The real answer is that she's probably not in love with you anymore, but she still gets horny from time-to-time. Cutting her off won't help things, what you need to do is have a heart-to-heart convo with her and discuss what you both can do to reconnect with one another or if she's even interested in reconnecting with you.
I know the original post is old, but I wanted to answer the question anyway. I'd love to know if him cutting her off completely made a difference. I've actually given that advice to other people before and their partner hadn't even noticed they had been cut off! Needless to say, generally a bad sign.
She is a woman. She probably has a rational justified reason for watching porn while you are at work. Nothing to worry about since she is in NO danger of being hooked on porn, or thinking that you should look like, or perform like the men in those movies. As a woman she is also ENTITLED to have sex when SHE FEELS LIKE it anyway, so wanting to have sex more often is rather arrogant on YOUR part. Now what I just wrote what SOME of the women in this forum have written on other past threads you seriously need to have a long talk with her and find out why she feels this way. Yes it will probably be your fault (don't be suprised you're a man and therefore you are ALWAYS held accountable for both your actions and hers as well.) If talking does not help go see a marriage counselor (one you BOTH can talk to, and one who remains NEUTRAL.)
A guy wanting to have sex with his wife is arrogant? Definitely one of the all-time dumbest things I've read on an online forum.
Just when I'd thought I'd seen it all.
Using your argument, you could say that SHE is arrogant, for only wanting sex on her time.
A guy wanting to have sex with his wife is arrogant? Definitely one of the all-time dumbest things I've read on an online forum.
Just when I'd thought I'd seen it all.
Using your argument, you could say that SHE is arrogant, for only wanting sex on her time.
That comment was made sarcastically. Read the other threads to see what I was talking about. BTW thank you for seeing the insanity of that post on its own. It was written in response to other posts which sometimes slam men for the very same behavior while using the same arguments to justify denying a SO sex.
She is a woman. She probably has a rational justified reason for watching porn while you are at work. Nothing to worry about since she is in NO danger of being hooked on porn, or thinking that you should look like, or perform like the men in those movies. As a woman she is also ENTITLED to have sex when SHE FEELS LIKE it anyway, so wanting to have sex more often is rather arrogant on YOUR part. Now what I just wrote what SOME of the women in this forum have written on other past threads you seriously need to have a long talk with her and find out why she feels this way. Yes it will probably be your fault (don't be suprised you're a man and therefore you are ALWAYS held accountable for both your actions and hers as well.) If talking does not help go see a marriage counselor (one you BOTH can talk to, and one who remains NEUTRAL.)
Glad you got it right, Mr! I can't believe some people on here thought that was a serious post., especially Mr. Creative.
For the last two years of a five year marriage my wife has refused to have sex any more than once a month or less. When we do have sex she just lays there and says hurry-up, get it over with. Now I have notice that she is looking at porn while I am at work. I am very frustrated.
Too funny..but where is the button for Cd buddies?
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Too funny..but where is the button for Cd buddies?
