Is it too late to tap into the college "hook up culture"? (wife, married)
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If you ever have a daughter..these days are going to KILL your heart.
Do what you want..but really make sure its what you want.
People "hook up" way beyond 22. And you should be responsible and get tested every three months for everything and always keep in contact with "hook ups" in case you have to track back where you got something and prevent further damage. Also think too about the next real relationship. Are you going to tell them about this? What if you get a life long STD that you have to tell them about? (herpes and warts can be caught w/ condom use and other diseases too if the condom breaks)
If you ever have a daughter..these days are going to KILL your heart.
Do what you want..but really make sure its what you want.
People "hook up" way beyond 22. And you should be responsible and get tested every three months for everything and always keep in contact with "hook ups" in case you have to track back where you got something and prevent further damage. Also think too about the next real relationship. Are you going to tell them about this? What if you get a life long STD that you have to tell them about? (herpes and warts can be caught w/ condom use and other diseases too if the condom breaks)
Young misguided guys like this make me so sad
Good advice, if he's hell bent on going this route I too hope he'll at least be safe.
Make sure you use birth control. Seriously. You want to party like a big boy, then get some condoms and use them. Don't rely on your party bimbos (some who may be underage) to take care of the problem.
Be prepared to be around a lot of drunk girls. Yes, you want to 'make out' with many girls and have many girlfriends (seriously, dude you sound like a 40 year old in a mid life crisis). Well, you may not be their cup of tea, even after a few beers.
Be prepared for rejection. Maybe they will not be into you no matter how much you want to 'hook up.'
Good advice, if he's hell bent on going this route I too hope he'll at least be safe.
He will be aware..But not safe.
Condom breaks and boom...AIDS...or...HEP C
Or if he got herpes and would not be protected from AIDS at all by condoms.
There is no such thing as safe sex. Only safer sex. And then if you would spread that around without knowing...Well I think that would really kill a soul with guilt. I know I couldn't live with myself if I did that to someone for "getting off" purposes.
Or if he got herpes and would not be protected from AIDS at all by condoms.
There is no such thing as safe sex. Only safer sex. And then if you would spread that around without knowing...Well I think that would really kill a soul with guilt. I know I couldn't live with myself if I did that to someone for "getting off" purposes.
College kids are not interested in lectures. Most will do what feels good, especially if you factor in drugs or alcohol. I saw it so many times when I was at college. My room mate was a little petite thing, butter wouldn't melt in her mouth but give her a few drinks or 'get her in the party mood' and she'd go after any guy or do anything.
I had to bodily throw some guy out of our house one night because she was drunk and begged me to get rid of the guy.
She let the guy on and I had to kick him out. The next day...well, let's say it was not pretty...
I'm sorry but your post just sounds very desperate and sad. Instead of focusing on the "hook up culture" why don't you focus on the "graduation culture" and get yourself through college so you can get a decent job. Women like men with ambition, not men who try to relive lost imaginary years of drunken, wild, sex orgies.
Focus on your future, not your past.
His future is his past. Nothing those drunken freshwomen like better than circumventing the 4 year wait. He needs to sell them on how close he is to graduation - barely more than 18 months!
Besides, he's obviously avoided the high first year attrition rate too.
In my experience, there were a lot of squeeky box springs for guys in their final year of law and that was when campuses were 30% female. Now, with the sex ratios reversed, the competition for a male graduate must be fierce.
He's hardly too old to get into some of those, start of year parties, although they initially try to keep the more experienced guys at bay.
He should just consider himself lucky to be in college today. Scoring a wealthy scion or a budding professional from the A list was a sober process for women in decades past.
There is no such thing as safe sex. Only safer sex.
True. Just as there is no such thing as safe driving, only safer driving.
But one can act reasonably when operating a motor vehicle, wear a seat belt, and still enjoy the pleasure and utility of getting the behind the wheel while knowing that the likelihood of an adverse event is quite low. When used properly (and they usually are) condoms are extremely effective in preventing most STD's. They aren't perfect; nothing is. But just as the small risk of an adverse event usually does not keep people from driving a car, so does the small risk of an STD not prevent lots and lots of reasonable people from engaging in consensual, protected sex.
People are not best served by histrionics or misleading information that suggest that sexual behavior is riskier than it truly is.
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Originally Posted by mango tango Hey, OP: Why are you so hell bent on hooking up with as many easy chicks as you can possibly can? Is it simply because of the sex? Is it because you want to stroke your ego by scoring with multitudes of girls?
Some of the main reasons people only hook-up rather than have actual relationships is because
a.) they don't have the time that a healthy relationship requires yet they still want sex and physical intimacy
b.) they have commitment issues
c.) they feel like it goes hand-in-hand with college/they feel like it's the only available option
d.) the ego boost of succeeding with many, many people
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Originally Posted by dave nz
Good post
There is probably not too much wrong with much of this as long as one takes precautions and doesn't make a life of this approach. After all, young people are being told to delay marriage until age 28 or even longer.
If you get it you may be infected for the rest of your days on earth or it can also be life threatening as well as you get to take drugs that'll set you back some $$$ every single day for potentially the rest of your life plus the discomfort of some of those diseases.
I don't care how much protection you may use, it's not STD / infection proof.
OH YEA......You may also have a unplanned child(ren), are you ready for that potential?
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