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Originally Posted by Serious Conversation
My gut feeling is it will play out like this. She's still going to keep shopping and spending, and do virtually nothing around the house. He's going to be working full time, she's going to be in that chair doing nothing, and he's going to be doing all the household stuff too. Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if their marriage doesn't end up strained by all this.
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I understand your concern and don't mean to make light of the situation but the truth is, thousands of people are in relationships where one person carries a heavier load than the other. One person works harder, one spends more, one is good with money the other isn't etc. etc. etc. This sounds more (in part) like an issue of you having preconceived notions of what a marriage should look like and in your eyes, Dad is holding up his end plus more, Mom...not so much.
From what I understand your mother is obese, a shopaholic, and a hoarder? Rather than worry about her getting fired from a job two weeks before she was going to retire I'd be more concerned with what's going on with her mentally. Her actions send up a whole lot of red flags that indicate she's got a giant hole she's trying to fill..any idea where that comes from? How about Dad? Is he perfect or does he have issues too?
These are adults, they are your parents, not your children. As for how ready they are (or aren't) for retirement, they're going to be better off than some and in worse shape then others, it's as simple as that. Your views on what they should have when they retire is a moot point unless they ask for your help or advice. Not trying to invalidate your concerns, just trying to point out the obvious.
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