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Not true. In LA, I've seen attractive women get approached frequently and unattractive women not so much. Also, I'm not talking about street approaches only. I see this happening at bars/lounges as well. It's like most of the guys gravitate towards the overweight chicks. Most of the pretty women get stared at unless she's drunk or the guys drunk enough to approach.
That's exactly what I get, stared at. It's very uncomfortable. I was walking by a few guys today, and they all stared. I don't dress overly sexy at all, at least not IMO.
I'm not one to think too highly of myself, so I tend to think, what they heck are they staring at?? lol
Women randomly smile at you. On my good days I get that. lol. I'm not a stud by any means but I have my days where I look "well put together."
I would say even average looking women get hit on pretty regularly in this city. From what I have observed.
The system wont let me rep you, but I have to agree with you. As a gentleman in NYC sometimes we have our good days with women and our bad days. All it takes is putting on a decent attire, maybe some good expensive cologne and heads will turn on the subway even though a man is average looking at best! Average women in this city do get hit on by a lot. Sometimes I notice there big women nearly 300 pounds pushing strollers, I wondered who knocked them up?
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Since the OP is generalizing I will too..., here goes I'm assuming you mean attactive like model attactive or close to it since overweight means ugly(your perspective not mine). What I have noticed is that guys that are hitting on women through out the day probably shouldn't be hitting on anyone and they tend to hit on anything anyways. Not saying that good looking man or above average(im just guessing as long as they dont look scrubby or something) don't approach women I definetely see it less from them. So either you have just noticed those instances and also you see it more in NYC because people are walking out in about than in LA were most people drive.
That's true too, but at the same time I don't think the op is generalizing!
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I assume the same way that one would in any other place.
Wrong. I met unattractive women in other parts of America and were willng to carry on a conversation and exchange numbers. In matter of fact some years ago in Vegas I was dancing with an unattractive Indian American bbw from San Francisco, her friends got jealous and decided to cockblock her. One time on way to Austin a early 50 something woman, probably well passed her prime and glory days behind her solicited me asking me to stay at her place while visiting. She was very upfront and honest about it and looking for company. I had to politely demure. Maybe if she dyed her hair I would have took the plunge! BY no means I was interested in this women but like food, you don't know whats going to land in your plate! Overall in my experience its much more easy meeting women outside of NYC than within. Again in NYC if you look physically creepy, or average in the looks department, below average, average and above average woman will not give you the time of day! Even be lucky if a below average woman gives you time in this city!
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Unattractive women still get approached because guys will eff anything.
Aint that the truth, Gonna have to rep you.
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Seriously, I see unattractive (overweight/below average face) women getting cold approached constantly. Even by good looking men! Alot of them have the nerve to develop an attitude when someone "ugly" approaches them. Wtf.. Both my unattractive and attractive friends tell me similar stories about what men do for them. So i'm confused, how does a woman know she's truly attractive looking in NYC?
I see the same thing too but also observed and even experienced it. You have to understand the dynamics of dating and relationships in NYC as a local or native New Yorker vs the Transplant. The thing is this that NYC, but also Boston, Philly, DC and rest of the urban NE is that women in this part of America are shallow and stuck up. The main reason why this happens is one because of cat calling. To many men here cat call women, it can either boost a womans ego or make her repulse a man regardless how she looks. Again women in this city and region live primarily in cities even worse if they live in low socioeconomic neighborhoods like the South Bronx for example. Women who grow up in these low income nieghorhoods are the most shallow, these women are brought up to watch out for men and don't date men that look like creeps. But is a man that looks like a creep really is a creep? Most likely no! Another thing is that we live in cities, in cities we don't have much time to make chatter or talk and always on the move and will not take the time to get to know you, this is why its faster to get with a local woman here if your physically attractive vs having an amazing persona. To get a womans attention here a man really cant use toys but a man has to used his physical looks. Another thing is that women here in NYC have their firewalls up set to high, the best way to get passed a woman's firewall on a cold approach is probably to be physically attractive.
Now let me say my piece. Most women in NYC are not really physically attractive persay. Yeah some women here may have big breat, big butts, nice curves, but may have an average looking face or what not. To be honest a woman from the Bronx or Brooklyn can look like an 8 but if they Transplant themselves to Florida or California, these women can easily end up as an 5. Hell I even knew a woman who wanted to be in playboy, a once childhood friend from Mott Haven, Transplanted to Cali almost a decade ago and she was not cut out for playboy because of her looks and ended up staring in porn which her career didn't last long! Also know a couple of women here who also transplanted to the sunbelt and have difficulty finding boyfriends in their new states, wasn't so in NYC where men were lined up to be with them. What's attractive in one part of America can be seen as ugly in another, so beauty is in the eye of the beholder! NYC women may be down to earth, but many are neurotic in the head, stuck up and shallow, as a man their is nothing you can do about this and the punches roll with the territory. Most local NYC women do not go for goal oriented type of guys, guys who are trying to make something out of themselves, or guy that is college educated and so forth, they find men like this to be selfish, also women in NYC make their own money and do not require a man to give them anything. I think when a woman here in NYC gets a bit older and wiser, a man that is solely physically attractive but has nothing to show for it becomes less appealing and may start going to a guy that has his stuff together regardless of how he looks. IF your an average NYC man, my best bet is to save money, build yourself up, try to fix up your appearance, obtain a college degree and you will be. Also try to increase your desiriblity, the best way by doing this is having a woman beside your arm, once you get one woman regardless of how she looks other will come and approach you to swipe you away from your woman!
Overall if you wanna get a woman here in NYC your going to have to be phsysically attractive. If not try to build your status and income repertoire and go for careerist and or college educated professional Transplant women that wear yoga pants.
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There was a woman on the train who was heavy and really should not have been wearing the low cut tight clothes she was with the top that said " YOU WISH YOU COULD"
i really wanted to say no i don't.
I figured i better not.. last time i said something it was to a woman at the gym.
Thank you for clarifying the street cat callers but what about men in other places? Like in a bar, club and lounge establishments? Apparently, these places are meat markets for the shallow type. So why is it guys who frequent these places, still approach overweight/unattractive women? Like I said before, In LA this does not happen nor in any other place I've visited. I guess I wouldn't be as confused, if I saw this behavior in the south.
People generally care much less about what others think here. Also NYC has a different image of what is attractive for a woman than the hollywood skinny image. A lot of men here like their women thick and curvy even if they don't have the prettiest face. So whereas in L.A. they would only approach "the standard" because they don't want to look bad in front of others that is not the case here.
New York is cat call central. It starts when you turn about 13 years old. The men that make comments to women in the street love big asses and overt sex appeal so you can be unattractive but if you have a big ass or are dressed provocatively you will get hit up. Its sort of this machismo thing and its sort of a means of putting women down.
But you can be the same person and get cat calls or not depending on your sex appeal and confidence level. After I had my daughter I was looking flabby and less than my usual shapely self lol and sure enough the cat calls stopped. Now I look better and have my old confidence back and the cat calls were back as well, despite my advancing age of 45 lmao. So it is something of a measure of your sex appeal and apparently, I still got it as 15 year olds are still cat calling. haha not very flattered but it is what it is..... I grew up on this and know what I'm talking about.
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