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What are you doing asking that question? I'm going to guess she's not repeating kindergarten for the 20th time. Didn't realize it was so outlandish for a 26-year-old to still be pursuing a degree (whether it be a graduate degree or undergrad).
Why should the mom be discreet in her own home? She can behave any way she chooses. She doesn't have to justify her behavior to anyone and she is behind closed doors - the closed door of her home. What you and the daughter may consider "distasteful" evidently the mother does not. It has nothing at all to do with the mother/daughter dynamic. The daughter is a grown woman, not an easily influenced child. Why should her mother exercise restraint just because her grown daughter might see her showing affection to her boyfriend? If the OP sees mom and her boyfriend making out, then she can just turn around and go in the other direction and not disturb them. The daughter apparently needs a social life of her own, then she wouldn't have time to worry about what her mother is doing.
Well the mother can do whatever she wants doesn't mean she can't practice some discreet. Any adult with self control can do that.
Well the mother can do whatever she wants doesn't mean she can't practice some discreet. Any adult with self control can do that.
Why should she have to practice discretion in HER own home? Self control has nothing to do with it. She doesn't have to answer to anyone but herself. What she and her boyfriend choose to do in her own home is their business and no one else's, nor do they have to conduct themselves by someone else's standards.
What is the mother doing- smooching and holding hands or having full blown orgies in the kitchen?
It is the mothers house and since I assume that she is paying for most things ( I missed the part where the OP was paying rent and contributing to the running of the household in general) she can do whatever she wants since she is an adult.
The OP sounds like jealous. Why does her mother need to put her grown daughter (at 26 years old, she is an adult) ahead of herself? Her job of raising a child is done. If mothers are required to put family and grown children's needs first, when do they get time for their wants and needs? Why should this mother need to cater to her daughter all the time? As the child grows into an adult the relationship between the two should change.
I think mom never grew up and acts like a teenager herself. What type of example is she leading. Family comes first.
Yeah, family first but the daughter is 26 friggin' years old. Not 6. If I were 26 again and living in my dad's house, and he had his girlfriend there, well, it's HIS house. I'd have just let them about their business, while I went about mine.
But if I go to the kitchen to get something to eat or go in the living room to use the TV do I have to see them all making out, slobbering all over each other?
Yes. It's her house and you should be living on your own by now. Don't use school as an excuse. Lots of people work full time, support themselves, and go to school.
Yes, including me. I worked full time while putting myself through school...undergraduate and graduate.
My own dd is 26 and in graduate school and supporting herself. She hasn't lived with me since she graduated from high school, except for a month or so during breaks and transition between the USA and Asia. It can be done.
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