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For all those saying "just move out" I can't. I don't make enough and I am busy with school. I just think that she should be putting me, her daughter first, and realize how uncomfortable it is.
One of my daughters is right about your age and no, you don’t come first any more. Hell, my daughter would say that before I would. I get that it’s probably weird to see your mom do what you’re describing but go to your room when it happens and use the awkwardness as motivation to finish college and move out.
Yes, exactly. Having a mother turn into this is very embarrassing. Last time I checked, it was considered a bad thing for a mother to neglect their child for a man.
Wow, that’s a stretch but ok. You’d hate having me as your mom, my husband of 20+ years comes first and always will, and my grown children, stepchildren, and my grandkids come in a close second, but still second. We don’t do major PDA around the kids but we would not adjust our lifestyle should any of our kids move home, thankfully none of them have. Oh yah, we have a 10+ year age difference; he’s the older one of us.
You sound jealous of your mom and interested in her boyfriend. The PDA thing, if it’s really as major as you make it out to be (laser tag?), maybe she’s doing it on purpose trying to speed up your departure. Not trying to be mean just honest. As much as I love my kids I don’t want them to move home any more than they want to move back. I’d be making plans if I were you.
What age do people need to stop playing laser tag? Curious since my husband built a snowman last week and I live stalking him with my Nerf gun. I mean we are old, but we're not dead! God if 40's are old, what are you in your 60's, 70's?
What age do people need to stop playing laser tag? Curious since my husband built a snowman last week and I live stalking him with my Nerf gun. I mean we are old, but we're not dead! God if 40's are old, what are you in your 60's, 70's?
I know a guy in his late 70's (77) who participates in paint ball tournaments. West Point holds one every year around this time and he's been a part of one of the teams for the past 3-4 years.
For some background I am 26 and live with my mom while going to school. For a little over a year now she has been in a relationship with a younger man, 30. Now she is 43. Honestly, I think it is gross not just because she is with a man more my age but they are very open about it, as in they will kiss and make out even when I am around. It really bothers me and I have told her but she just says "it's my house I can do what I want" "you can't dictate who I am involved with" etc.
Now due to financial difficulty I did move back in after she was in this "relationship" but still, shouldn't she see how I view it as her daughter and tone it way down? The guy she is with is nice and everything but it's not fun seeing this.
Kuddos to you for going to school and getting a degree. But your mom is a grown woman. A sexual human being. Not easy to accept, but you're an adult so you really need to deal with it. These are your issues, not hers. My opinion, unless you're paying half of the expenses in that home, you don't get a say. Since you're living with your mom due to financial difficulty, I'm guessing you're paying nothing; maybe some groceries?? Your mom seems happy and you should be happy for her. Not only do you move back in with her, now you want her to tiptoe around you so you're not uncomfortable. It's a bit selfish.
Consider moving into an apartment with people your own age; get some room mates to help with the bills. Don't move back with mom and then expect her to change the way she's been living.
I think people are a little harsh. It's probably very embarrassing knowing your mother has turned into a cougar! Even her friends have made fun of her about it. Why would a young apparently successful guy like that want an older woman as opposed to a younger one like the OP?
Well, I guess if it were my Mom it would freak me out a little too. But, she is grown and she can do what she wants. If they are both happy, let them be. Start calling him Pop, just for fun. LOL!
Lots of people don't go straight through from high school to college, and there's also graduate school... I finished my BA at age 25 (took a few years off in the middle), then got my Master's at 30. And if you think this is so unusual, why was I one of the YOUNGEST in my graduate classes?
I didn't live with my parents during these years, but that was also a long time ago - so I can't really judge, since today I'm struggling to get by even as a working professional. Without knowing where the OP lives, it's hard to say they can "leave the nest" that easily. They should be at least contributing, though, and I agree that the mom can date/kiss whoever she wants (especially with it being her house).
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