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OP I predict if you let them stay after all of this, they won't leave the home when they said they will. If they gamed you once, they'll do it again. Let us know how this works out.
Since they went ahead and changed their departure date, I would allow them to stay in your rental property this time. But wouldn't make another offer ever again to let them stay for free.
I'd add them to my very short 'bad list' for whenever I may need a reminder. I wouldn't have them now if it were I. If you felt pressured yourself ... definitely never again. Life's too short.
I don't get all the hate for the friends. There was a misunderstanding on the dates, they asked to stay with the for the extra night (seems reasonable to want to visit with a friend when you've come all that way), but the OP demanded that they change their flight instead. They did so, and even sent proof to the OP.
Why kick them out now? They've done everything the OP wanted.
I guess to me there is just a disconnect to the OP calling these people friends and allowing them a free week at her vacation rental, but then acting like they're these horrible, scheming people that she doesn't want anything to do with.
Are they friends? Or are they your mate's family members that you dislike? The manscaping one maybe?
I guess to me there is just a disconnect to the OP calling these people friends and allowing them a free week at her vacation rental, but then acting like they're these horrible, scheming people that she doesn't want anything to do with.
Are they friends? Or are they your mate's family members that you dislike? The manscaping one maybe?
I don't get it either. Makes it kind of hard to respond.
OP, if the lake house is about an hour away from you and you are busy with your own life, how many times do you see these people when they are there for a week? I'd probably feel like they weren't coming to see me but just to get a cheap vacation. Would they come to visit if they had to pay for a week of hotel? Would they come to visit if you (your second home) wasn't in a nice locale?
We won't be able to see them much at all on this visit. Probably one afternoon which is what we have planned. In years past we were able to spend a few days during their visit but this year they are arriving when we are pretty much booked. I'm not under any illusions that they are coming to visit with us.
OP I predict if you let them stay after all of this, they won't leave the home when they said they will. If they gamed you once, they'll do it again. Let us know how this works out.
This is what we are worried about....that they will overstay because of another "misunderstanding " or leave the place messy. It's a little tense right now because we kept asking about the dates. We don't have any intention of hosting them again especially at no charge.
This is what we are worried about....that they will overstay because of another "misunderstanding " or leave the place messy. It's a little tense right now because we kept asking about the dates. We don't have any intention of hosting them again especially at no charge.
Apparently these people don't understand the right thing to do and I wouldn't host them under any circumstances. Even if there was a legitimate "misunderstanding" (which I don't think there was), the right thing for them to do would be to absorb any expense since you are generously allowing the use of the use of your home. Instead they put the onus on you for accommodating them the extra night and ignored your e-mail until you cancelled the reservation. Did they go ahead and change the flight after receiving your latest e-mail cancelling the reservation and without checking with you? If so, I would have no problem saying "unfortunately due to your delayed response to resolving the reservation dates, we have already made other arrangements for those dates." They brought the problem onto themselves causing a "tense" situation and ruined a good thing. Staying at your home was a privilege not a right.
P.S. I would also worry about something missing after their visit.
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This is what we are worried about....that they will overstay because of another "misunderstanding " or leave the place messy. It's a little tense right now because we kept asking about the dates. We don't have any intention of hosting them again especially at no charge.
I agree with your thinking. It puzzles me that some people here take the side of the offenders. You are the nice person who offered this to them. It should not be a tense situation like they have created. I still say not to let them stay. Friends don't do this to friends.
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