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You moved in with a man you only knew 3 weeks...did I read this correctly..at the advice of your Father?
This man is utterly disgusting. You may have to make some sacrifices and postpone college but you need to leave, ASAP call the domestic violence hotline, go to a shelter, file some police reports.
Where is the childrens father, is he supportive enough to help with the kids for a while, does he pay child support?
Yes, you read that correctly. Though it wasn't my father's advice, he kicked me out! At that time, I had my youngest child with me but my oldest was with his dad. His dad promised me he was only taking my child for 3 weeks and would have him back to me by Christmas. He lied. It took me five months to get my son back. When I would try to call and talk to my kid, his dad would stand in the background and call me very nasty names talking directly to my then 5 year old. Me and him are on much better terms now but I can't risk giving him my kids again because he may not give them back this time. I went through police enforcement to try to get him back and was told that because I allowed him to take him, that there was nothing I could do. I asked could I visit, and they said he didn't have to let me without first going to court, which could take months. I asked if I could just go take him, and was told I could possibly be got on kidnapping charges. Tell me that's not crazy. I raised that kid and now someone's telling me I can't have him. That's not going to work. Me and their Dad are on much better terms now but he's 14 hours away from me and I don't really know how well that would work. And no, he does not pay child support. But at the same time, he wouldn't let them starve if he knew I couldn't do it, so...
Ready, If your kids have to go to another school, trust me, they will get acclimated to it. Trust me, they will be fine. The kids know what is going on.You can`t hide abuse. Bob`s abuse will get worse. You can`t wait 2 1/2 years to leave.
You moved in with a man you only knew 3 weeks...did I read this correctly..at the advice of your Father?
This man is utterly disgusting. You may have to make some sacrifices and postpone college but you need to leave, ASAP call the domestic violence hotline, go to a shelter, file some police reports.
Where is the childrens father, is he supportive enough to help with the kids for a while, does he pay child support?
Obviously neither of our OP"s parents are never going to win "Parent of the Year" awards. It's no wonder she's a high school drop out, this young with 3 kids already and in an abusive situation
Ready, if you are REALLY ready then CALL A WOMEN'S SHELTER FOR HELP ASAP - TONIGHT. The police can escort you there for your safety. Do not stay in the environment you are in one more day honey.
Obviously neither of our OP"s parents are never going to win "Parent of the Year" awards. It's no wonder she's this young with 3 kids already and in an abusive situation
Ready, If your kids have to go to another school, trust me, they will get acclimated to it. Trust me, they will be fine. The kids know what is going on.You can`t hide abuse. Bob`s abuse will get worse. You can`t wait 2 1/2 years to leave.
Deep down I know this. I know I can't do this for another 2 1/2 years, but I don't think anyone knows what this is like if you haven't been there and done it. I was just like every other girl and swore I would never let a man put his hands on me. I still watch cop's shows and wonder why those women are doing it. I know how insane this sounds to an outsider, it sounds just as crazy to me.
If my only issue was getting a ride, I wouldn't be posting on here. My concern is what happens once I get to a woman's shelter. Do I have to give up school? My children are the biggest thing in my world. They are perfectly happy where we are now. They don't see what goes on, just some arguing here and there. I can bust my butt to stick it out here for another 2 1/2 years till I finish school so I can give my children a shot at having a life. Sure, my life will be hell, but I'm a big girl. I would obviously much prefer not having to life this way though. If, by some shot in hell, I could still go to school and not have to deal with this, that would be great. My mother worked as a waitress raising me and I just can't do that to my children. I want them to go to college, to live good lives, and if I raise them in poverty and crime, how can I expect them to turn out any better than that. Sure it's possible, but not very likely. They have to come first. I can't screw them over.
don't underestimate what your kids are aware of. Especially the 7 year old.
As others have said, get out now.
Go to a shelter. Postpone your studies.
If my only issue was getting a ride, I wouldn't be posting on here. My concern is what happens once I get to a woman's shelter. Do I have to give up school? My children are the biggest thing in my world. They are perfectly happy where we are now. They don't see what goes on, just some arguing here and there. I can bust my butt to stick it out here for another 2 1/2 years till I finish school so I can give my children a shot at having a life. Sure, my life will be hell, but I'm a big girl. I would obviously much prefer not having to life this way though. If, by some shot in hell, I could still go to school and not have to deal with this, that would be great. My mother worked as a waitress raising me and I just can't do that to my children. I want them to go to college, to live good lives, and if I raise them in poverty and crime, how can I expect them to turn out any better than that. Sure it's possible, but not very likely. They have to come first. I can't screw them over.
If your kids truly "come first" then GET THE HELL OUT. Do you think that you're in a good environment for them? Do you really think they don't see what's going on? Wake up, grow up, take one semester off school to sort your life out, and do what is right. You KNOW it's the right thing to do, or else you wouldn't be here for validation.
Don't be an idiot. Your kids deserve better.
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