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You obviously have no understanding of what goes on in an abusive home. Try telling an abuser he's not "in control" and must leave and a women ends up beaten or dead.
Try to remember, we are not discussing the normal break-up of a couple.
Why not put a restraining order on him?...the police will escort him from the home and he will not be allowed within 100 feet of her...then get a really big gun and put a hole in him if he even darkens the door.
Why not put a restraining order on him?...the police will escort him from the home and he will not be allowed within 100 feet of her...then get a really big gun and a big hole in him if he even darkens the door.
Did you miss the part about how she moved into HIS place? That she was basically homeless because her father was kicking her out??
Real life is not like a tv show - it's much more complicated than you seem to understand. A restraining order does not save you when an abuser has lost control over you. In fact, it often puts women in MORE danger to seek one.
There is a way to go about saving yourself from a situation like this, but you have to chose your actions carefully - otherwise it's just "he said, she said" and cops will not get involved.
Calling a women's shelter and getting PROFESSIONAL advice and guidance as to how to leave and when is her very best option - screw the plasma tv and other material possessions. This is her LIFE and the life of her children at stake.
Fats, The way you talk to people....IS WRONG. Only peoples self-rightous pride makes them think that it`s ok to talk to others however they please. You cannot even admit that no one here is "coddling" her. They all told her to leave... Coddling someone means that you are being codependent to another and no one here is doing that. The difference here is that most people on here having a caring heart vs others who are being self-rightous about her problems. What is your issue that you refuse to see this....
True about restraining orders. Men(phycopaths) like this could care less about a restraining order. They don`t care about consequences whatsoever. The do what they want to regardless.They think that the rules don`t apply to them.
So I was just reading another post about an ex abusive husband who won`t leave this gal alone and has already pulled a gun on her. See....so these domestic vilence situations are not always so cut and dry. This women has left and the phsycopath is still harrassing her. Unless a person has ever been in a situation like this, they really don`t know the issues with men like this.
So I was just reading another post about an ex abusive husband who won`t leave this gal alone and has already pulled a gun on her. See....so these domestic vilence situations are not always so cut and dry. This women has left and the phsycopath is still harrassing her. Unless a person has ever been in a situation like this, they really don`t know the issues with men like this.
Like I said before, all situations ARE different. There are different actions to take depending on if a woman still lives with her abuser or if she's already gotten away from him but he's still threatening her
Call me stupid, but why ponder what you should do on a message board? It's obvious.
Its obvious to most people, its not unusal for a women to be unable to see her way out and reach out for support, isn't that one of the purposes of message boards? Look at it this way, if she leaves, we may have helped to save someones life.
I hope she's able to come back and tell us she's ok. Every time I hear a news story about some guy murdering his wife I think of threads like these and the people we've personally had contact with and hold my breath.
Put your head up, don't look back, look forward. Take your kids, go to a shelter and get your life in order. Your situation is a dyer one and if you continue, you WILL have your children taken away from you, or worse, you'll end up dead somewhere.
Take it from someone who left an abusive husband. He choked me and beat me to a pulp. And you best believe he spent time in prison. I have children who deserve to have a LOVING home. I left and didn't look back.
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