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Eh, my engagement ring is a family heirloom (from my family, not his), and it's worth is mostly sentimental. I think men purchase rings as a symbol of their love and commitment, but no man should ever purchase something so expensive that it causes financial stress. Financial difficulties are at the root of many marital problems, so it's best to discuss these issues openly and honestly before marriage, so each partner is on the same page.
Note: My parents paid for my wedding to my husband of twenty-seven years, which was the tradition at the time, so I'm not sure where the OP gets the idea that the grooms are splashing out for the ceremony. Has that changed in recent years? And, btw, it was pretty fancy, in line with their tastes and guest list, not mine. My husband and I would have preferred something much simpler.
They had this post on instagram that was interesting. The picture showed a old and used wedding ring, and it said, "if your husband proposed to you with this ring, would you say yes?" To my surprise, alot of these women said yes. Of course, they were a few who said "no'', an they were called gold diggers....
I can't really answer your question, OP, but I'm trying to lay down some perspective. If a man can afford to buy his girl an expensive ring and help pay for an expensive wedding, then he is the provider that she needs him to be. (Just a guess)
According to enrichment journal on the divorce rate in America:
The divorce rate in America for first marriage is 41%
The divorce rate in America for second marriage is 60%
The divorce rate in America for third marriage is 73%
Their source of informtion is the U.S. Census. Averge is 56%
I've always thought these stats were amusing....we've seen how the 56% isn't really true.
But when people gasp and nod their heads at the divorce rates for 2nd and 3rd marriages instead think that hey - ALL those first marriages ended in divorce so it's actually an improvement that ANY survived (much less 40% or 27%)!
A good many people run by contraries and believe differently. Some people are so desperate for love that they will shower someone with expensive things or promise marriage so that they won't end up alone.
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