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He saw this thread too, then he was like "I dont care about the comments. It depends on how you write things. If I write the stuff in my own way, I can get people to tell me to dump you as well."
That is certainly true. His side of the story may be different than yours, and we always write here from our own biased point of view.
I am so scared that he will just meet a new girl this week
Don't be scared - HOPE that he will - and that she's a real piece of work who'll play the game much better than he does and give him a taste of his own medicine! Karma's a biotch!
I know this is sort of long, but I really need help from you guys. Thanks for reading in advance.
I've been seeing this guy since August 2010 and we've been in a relationship officially for a month. I couldn't address a right term to the "relationship" we had for the past few months though. We started "dating" each other in August, we did all the initimate things except for sex (which means we did everything except for intercourse). However, after we've been dating for a month, he brought over his girlfriend and his girlfriend started to throw questions at me (before that I thought he was single). So I talked to him saying that we should stop seeing each other, he didn't agree on that and neither I could let go. Then we ended up spending time with each other again. The fact that he was in a relationship put me through lots of stress in the past few months. To me, I see it as an ethical issue, I won't allow myself to date someone who is already in a relationship and neither can I accept to be his friend with benefits. Then I told him he has to be at least single to talk to me. One important thing to note is that he is a sexual being whereas I am a virgin. He likes intimacy VERY MUCH and I am not ready to have sex yet.
So anyways, at the beginning of December, he broke up with his girlfriend then asked me to be his girlfriend officially. I decided to give it a shot. He was pressuring me for sex and when I told him I am not ready to have sex with him, he thinks it's my responsibility to FIND HIM SOMEONE THAT HE CAN HAS SEX WITH. But with all the things happened in the past, they are all stuck in my mind. The fact that he can't be committed/monogamous (which is dating ONLY ONE PERSON from my perspective) hurts me a lot. I don't feel that I can accept him as a person. So I broke up with him after TWO WEEKS. After I broke up with him, we were still spending time together trying to figure things out, we still did some intimate things such as making out ( I am quite conservative, the fact that he was making out with me made me assume that we are back in a relationship again). However, I figured out that he claimed to two of his exgirlfriends that he is single. It hurt me a lot b/c I already assumed we were back in a relationship since we made out. Also, he had sex with a girl right away after two days of our break up.
So here is our problem, I don't think I will be ready to have sex with him soon. And I don't think that he will be able to wait. I talked to him about it, I wanted him to wait half a year (which is till I finish my undergrad). He said he will try to do his best (but deep down both of us know that he can't wait since he is really really into intimacy). I asked him if he can promise me that he does NOT make out/have sex with anyone else except for me. He couldn't make such a promise. (No one knows about the future, that's his words.) So The current situation is I broke up with him yesterday because he couldn't make such a promise and I know I am not okay with the fact that he can't be monogamous. Last night he came over to my place and we were trying to figure out a solution to our relationship. (So far I believe he sees himself as single).
FYI, he is 30 and I am 23.
Do you guys think that I should give him one more chance trying to work things out?
In case you haven't found the answer and still check this website: Your 'relationship' started out as you being the other girl. Quite frankly, the two of you will NEVER have a good, healthy relationship. Anything started in that manner, while he could turn around and be monogamous, you will never trust him. I can say with some degree of certainty, that the first night he is out late, your mind will wander, the second, even further. Until you literally will suspect him every night of going out and turning into his 'old self'. Please for your sake, move on.
hmmm, you are right. But then, I probably won't mind having a committed sexual relationship when it's time. So far, he's done too many things that go beyond my boundary and there is no way that I can feel secured around him.
And yet he's still in your life. Five bucks says it's only a matter of time before he gets his way. Some women will just go out of their way to link up with idiots.
And yet he's still in your life. Five bucks says it's only a matter of time before he gets his way. Some women will just go out of their way to link up with idiots.
Yet every day a new jerk finds new girls to play at..
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