The guy I'm seeing wants to go out with his friends while I'm sick (girl, loyalty)
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When I dated my husband, he lived an hour and a half away from me.
Then it would not be feasible for you to ask that of him, and I see nothing wrong with that.
If that were the case with the OP, I'd hope she'd have enough sense to realize she shouldn't ask that of him. If he did live that far away and she asked and expected it of him anyway, I'd think it was more of a test and I don't agree with that.
I've been seeing this guy for just several weeks, everything has been fine and we see each other almost every other day. He said he wants a serious exclusive relationship and I told him I need more time (and I explained it's not like I want to date other guys, I just want to see if we're compatible before I make a decision).
So today when we were talking on the phone, I told him I'm sick and my body temp is high. He first said "oh I wish I could make you feel better." Then I asked "can you come over here for a little bit and bring me some medicine?" He responded:" but I don't want to get sick. and I told my friends I'm going to hang out with them." Then I had to walk in the cold myself to go to the drug store....
Is it unreasonable for me to be upset with his reaction? Now I'm more scared of entering into a relationship with him, because I don't expect my bf to run away when I need him
I don't know how old the two of you are, but you both sound young and without a lot of relationship experience.
I think that he should have bought you some medicine and dropped it off to you. I can also understand why he wouldn't want to hang out at your place with you for fear of getting sick himself. Your mistake was combining your two requests (medicine and his company) together as one big request. And when he told you that he didn't want to spend time with you, then you should have insisted that he at least drop off the medicine you needed.
However, have you no other friends or family members close by to deliver the medicine? This part concerns me. You shouldn't make your new boyfriend your only support system.
Also, you've only been dating a few weeks. And you admit that the two of you have been seeing a lot of each other. And that's not healthy for your romance. You don't want him to get tired of your company. He needs to be able to still hang out with his guy friends as often as he sees you. Don't cramp his style. Don't smother him and be a clingy girlfriend. Give him chances to miss your company. When he is out with his friends, you should be out with your friends and doing other fun things in life. And you will also have more new things to talk about when you are with each other. Don't try to be Siamese twins that are joined at the hip. That's not what love is about.
I've been seeing this guy for just several weeks, everything has been fine and we see each other almost every other day. He said he wants a serious exclusive relationship and I told him I need more time (and I explained it's not like I want to date other guys, I just want to see if we're compatible before I make a decision).
So today when we were talking on the phone, I told him I'm sick and my body temp is high. He first said "oh I wish I could make you feel better." Then I asked "can you come over here for a little bit and bring me some medicine?" He responded:" but I don't want to get sick. and I told my friends I'm going to hang out with them." Then I had to walk in the cold myself to go to the drug store....
Is it unreasonable for me to be upset with his reaction? Now I'm more scared of entering into a relationship with him, because I don't expect my bf to run away when I need him
You sound like a drama queen to me -- "Boo hoo, I had to walk in the cold by myself, pity me." Don't you have a friend or family member to help you out? Nobody likes you well enough to extend a helping hand? Someone you are barely dating is the only person you can relay on for a little help? If that is the case, it's the biggest problem you have going right now.
This guy should run like the wind - you are way too needy.
You sound like a drama queen to me -- "Boo hoo, I had to walk in the cold by myself, pity me." Don't you have a friend or family member to help you out? Nobody likes you well enough to extend a helping hand? Someone you are barely dating is the only person you can relay on for a little help? If that is the case, it's the biggest problem you have going right now.
This guy should run like the wind - you are way too needy.
She might have other friends--but the point is that if this guy wants to show he VALUES her, he would have stopped and got the medicine for her. Win himself some points. It's not like she's asking him to stay with her and be miserable with her, just stop in for five minutes (or less). Win himself some points. If he can't be bothered to do that, then why should she pursue a relationship with him?
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