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It's human nature to be attracted to beautiful people of the opposite sex. There is no reason to be shamed for this. Of course as others have mentioned there is a difference between wanting and expecting.
If anything it is probably more unnatural for a physically unattractive person to have the hots for another unattractive person (I dislike the term "ugly" unless they also have an ugly personality). But I understand why people settle because companionship often beats being lonely.
Do many people believe in "leagues"? Or do you believe in the whole Hitch movie theory. That anyone can sweep anyone off their feet if they have the right broom.
I don't believe that everyone can be successful in going after the person they want no matter what they do, but I think they have the right to try. I don't think you can force yourself to be attracted to someone who you're not attracted to. You can try to be "realistic" and date someone closer to your "league", but that doesn't mean that you're suddenly going to find them attractive just because you think you should. Personally, if I can't get the person I want, I'd just rather be alone than to settle for someone in my "league" who I don't really want.
I think everyone has a right to their own preferences, whether it is physical beauty, income, weight, education, or any other considerations they may have. A person may not be the best looking but may have other pros going that keeps them in the "prime" category. Overall, one should not command filet and lobster if they are chopped liver. It's not just about looks, to me anyway. I'm more of a brains, manners, financial security gal. "Prime" varies from person to person. A man may not even require his partner to work at all. If she's a good provider at home, that's enough for some.
I totally agree. I hate when ugly girls make passes or hit on me. I'm sorry, but unattractive people need to get real. It's just selfishness. You need to always honestly consider whether the other party would be even remotely interested in you. I am in support of taking a shot, but don't shoot from halfcourt with a ****ing blindfold on.
I've been approached by some sloths in my time, but someone once said to me, "you don't ask, you don't get." I've also heard "shy children don't get any candy" and the storied, "you snooze you lose!" Can't fault someone for trying.
Besides: we've all seen couples that have made us scratch our heads. I was at a grocery store once; I'd been dumped that night and was basically just driving aimlessly and decided to stop in and buy some booze to cry into later that night. I'm going down the pizza aisle and I pass by this couple... the girl was an adorable half-Asian thing with a nice body. She was hugging her husband/boyfriend's arm and nuzzling him: the guy was easily 300lbs, wearing stupid knee shorts and a green sweater, and had a laugh like Peter Griffin's. No joke.
An ex coworker of mine was an ethnically Persian-Greek amateur bodybuilder, ex-Marine who picked up side incomes modelling, being a personal trainer, and doing bit parts in movies. His girlfriend was a short, pretty blah-looking midwestern single mom who only ever wore hoodies and was the dictionary definition of "ghetto booty." He "liked them like that."
Bottom line: can't fault someone for trying, and as I say time and again: no one has to answer to anyone for their preferences but themselves.
Let me elaborate. While at work I was thinking (instead of working). How many people believe that unattractive or ugly people have no right or are hypoctites for only wanting very attractive people? Is that a clear question? This is most noticeable when one unattractive person asks out another unattractive person just to get shot down for not being attractive. Or when an attractive person brings on the whole "back off, your out of your league". Do many people believe in "leagues"? Or do you believe in the whole Hitch movie theory. That anyone can sweep anyone off their feet if they have the right broom.
It depends if they have standards or not..I wont date someone extremely obese..If someone is sloppy with their appearance..then no..Im too good for them..but if they are a little over weight and have good grooming then I have no problem with it. Some men I know Im too good for, not everyone is worth dating just because they are attracted to you..
I don't believe that everyone can be successful in going after the person they want no matter what they do, but I think they have the right to try. I don't think you can force yourself to be attracted to someone who you're not attracted to. You can try to be "realistic" and date someone closer to your "league", but that doesn't mean that you're suddenly going to find them attractive just because you think you should. Personally, if I can't get the person I want, I'd just rather be alone than to settle for someone in my "league" who I don't really want.
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I couldn't give a fatratsass who ends up with whom. What bothers me is when one 'class' or age group puts down another, especially when it's their own, as if they're better than their 'class'. Go out with someone younger, who cares. Just don't put down other men or women in your class in the process. You're not immune to aging.
Also, those bitter (mostly) men who think women are the reason they can't get a date when they fail to consider the common denominator in every case. They're so transparent them can't see their own selves.
I couldn't give a fatratsass who ends up with whom. What bothers me is when one 'class' or age group puts down another, especially when it's their own, as if they're better than their 'class'. Go out with someone younger, who cares. Just don't put down other men or women in your class in the process. You're not immune to aging.
Also, those bitter (mostly) men who think women are the reason they can't get a date when they fail to consider the common denominator in every case. They're so transparent them can't see their own selves.
LMFAO @ hypocrisy!
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). How many people believe that unattractive or ugly people have no right or are hypoctites for only wanting very attractive people? Is that a clear question? This is most noticeable when one unattractive person asks out another unattractive person just to get shot down for not being attractive. Or when an attractive person brings on the whole "back off, your out of your league". Do many people believe in "leagues"? Or do you believe in the whole Hitch movie theory. That anyone can sweep anyone off their feet if they have the right broom.
