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I am a parent as well and not a perfect by any means, I am strict as well..and of course my son states that so and so can do this why cant he? So I guess I am scared a bit..
But what I am saying is based on me and what I would do...
You have raised your son whether it was wrong but you did what you thought was best? Children will often go with the easiest route...
And perhaps the parents of this girl felt it was easier to snare your son in rather than worry what their daughter was doing over at your place..
He is an adult...his inheritance is for college..if I were you I would state that he find a major fast and get to it..
Do not bother him by stalking .....he is an adult..but do call him and ask him how he is...leave a message if you haveto..It is his decision..
Step back...sooner or later rather sooner than later he will realize just how important you 2 are to him....
I am so sorry..
Good point - if the money was left for his college education, I would hope there's a way that it can be used only for that. Have him send the tuition statement and pay it from the trust fund, otherwise no money.
If there is money involved, you can't always trust the motives of others. And it doesn't always have to be a whole lot of money.
This girl has mental issues, she needs professional help!!! She is extremely insecure and anyone who would be jealous of her boyfriends mom or dad, is deeply unhealthy!! I think she is jealous of his good relationship with his family, she probably comes from a very dysfunctional home with parents who were gone all the time and let her raise herself while growing up!! Most times kids like this not only turn into "wild child" teenagers, but love to grab hold of a "normal and well raised child from a good home" and turn them against their family and into the same as themselves, it is all about envy, jealousy!! I have a son going through the same. After talking to this girls ex boyfriends family I found out, she is what they called "VERY WEIRD" and the relationship ended badly with their son. This same girl was dating my son for sometime, then got mad because he would not go partying with her one weekend so she went out with the ex to scare and control my son into doing as she said in the future. It worked, She a manipulative, "piece of work" and has quite a reputation, Her family is very strange as well, called to meet them one time as our kids had been living together and dating for six years, but got no response, the father sounded very immature and of little class, the mother did not return the call, but several people have come to me to tell me how strange she is as well, they work with her. Listen to your gut as a mother, you are always right!!!
if he is grown if he is out of your house. i hear you but its his issue not yours.
be there for him when he crashes but otherwise let him live his life. interesting however,she is overconfident since she controls him now she thinks she can control you,can she?
I can tell the ages and experience from the response posts. You get one mother in this world who unless she abuses or neglects you will more for you than absolutely anyone else on this planet. You break that connection then it is your loss. Entitled adult children need to grow up. Maybe your mom doesn't care for your personality either. It didn't stop her from raising you. Make an effort.
Two suggestions: 1) step back and let the son have his space, and 2) put yourself in his shoes and try understand his perspective. Since you can't force him to communicate with you, wait until he contacts you and be pleasantly responsive. Just know that it may be weeks, months, or years. In the meantime, refocus your life on someone who appreciates you or something that brings you joy.
With a son in his 20s.....as a mother you should let him grow up some more...on his own. He WILL make mistakes...that part you can't change...let's hope he learns from them.
I have similar sitution but the girlfriend starting disrespecting after she had his child n now he feels stuck supporting mother in law n her brother n their still not maried
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