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Im glad it worked out for you.
But my experience doing that hasnt been good. I prefer to be approached or asked out first.
I didn't ask him out tho.....I talked to him 1st & said hi. I wouldn't ask a guy out......but that's me & I know it's not how a lot of other women feel.
I didn't ask him out tho.....I talked to him 1st & said hi. I wouldn't ask a guy out......but that's me & I know it's not how a lot of other women feel.
You may not have asked him out on a date but you initiated the relationship.
Location: As of 2022….back to SoCal. OC this time!
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You may not have asked him out on a date but you initiated the relationship.
I just initiated a hello silly. We built a friendship together ........& chemistry.......then he asked me out. Saying hi to somebody online isn't initiating a relationship.............
I just initiated a hello silly. We built a friendship together ........& chemistry.......then he asked me out. Saying hi to somebody online isn't initiating a relationship.............
You made the first move.
I just wouldnt feel comfortable in a relationship that began that way. Thats just me though.
I just wouldnt feel comfortable in a relationship that began that way. Thats just me though.
I always made the first move. Then I would do nothing and let the man make further effort if he was interested.
The huge benefit of this maneuver is that you take full responsibility for who you find attractive, what you want. It's very empowering. You don't wait passively until a man expresses interest, and then decide if you find him attractive or not. I didn't get 100% positive response rate. But of the positive responses I got, 100% of them I was attracted to. What a lottery win!
I also found that in general men definitely like it when a woman makes the first contact, revealing initial interest. This is no way prevents the man from courting, stepping up, pursuing, or whatever kind of relationship dance the people want to do, but men get rejected so often, that it can feel really good to them to know that a woman is interested before they make any effort. IMO it can even raise your first-impression-attractiveness level in their mind, because your initial attention feels good to them! And people in general find it harder to resist what gave them a good feeling
I always made the first move. Then I would do nothing and let the man make further effort if he was interested.
The huge benefit of this maneuver is that you take full responsibility for who you find attractive, what you want. It's very empowering. You don't wait passively until a man expresses interest, and then decide if you find him attractive or not. I didn't get 100% positive response rate. But of the positive responses I got, 100% of them I was attracted to. What a lottery win!
I also found that in general men definitely like it when a woman makes the first contact, revealing initial interest. This is no way prevents the man from courting, stepping up, pursuing, or whatever kind of relationship dance the people want to do, but men get rejected so often, that it can feel really good to them to know that a woman is interested before they make any effort. IMO it can even raise your first-impression-attractiveness level in their mind, because your initial attention feels good to them! And people in general find it harder to resist what gave them a good feeling
Yeah, Im not against flirting if I find a guy attractive. I try to get on their radar. Feminine wiles. Like dropping my hanky in front of him and saying "I do declare!" So its not completely a passive process.
Yeah, Im not against flirting if I find a guy attractive. I try to get on their radar. Feminine wiles. Like dropping my hanky in front of him and saying "I do declare!" So its not completely a passive process.
Tried and true! But how does that work with OLD, or maybe you don't do that?
Tried and true! But how does that work with OLD, or maybe you don't do that?
I dont do OLD but I used to date off of facebook. Id like the guys pictures and statuses until he noticed me.
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