So this is exactly why I'm single.. (dating, women, love)

[himain]

You guys are gonna love this. I swear ONLY me again!! Kinda long so enjoy!!

So I went back on Match and of course I'm getting responses from people I would NEVER consider but that goes with the game. However, a 45 yo guy who caught my eye had emailed me so I gave him my cell after a few emails and he called me yesterday morning. We had a decent conversation except he was hasseling me about my cat Anyways, we decided to meet for some drinks at 6:30. Well around 3:30 my mother (who's sick with stage 3 lung cancer) calls me and asks me if I'd like to come over and make stuffed shells with her and have dinner with my parents. So of course I'm going to spend time with my sick mother over any first date because I don't know if she'll be around next year. So I call the guy and tell him that somethings come up and ask if we could reschedule. The guy was ok with rescheduling. I said I had plans Thurs and Friday so if he wanted to get together Sat if he was available that would be great. He said that he doesn't like making plans that far ahead. He then says "When you want to go out with me, you call me" and hangs up! I call him back and asked if he hung up on me? He starts telling me I'm rude for cancelling and that obviously I'm not interested. I said "I could have texted you instead of calling you but I called you and it's 3 hours prior not 20 mins. I am interested in meeting you so that's why I asked if you would be available Saturday." Then the guy goes on a rant about how all women are selfish and I'm just the typical woman and basically berates me!! I said "Obviously this isn't going to work out and I wish you luck on Match" and hang up.

Here comes the fun part!! He starts texting me these crazy ass texts. Keep in mind this guy is a successful 45 year old.

Him: U r a joke and a liar. U r single and alone. Games and unsolicited advice unacceptable. Selfish girl bad news. U made plans break plans. U r unreliable person.

Me: What?? Do you actually speak to a woman like that and expect to get a favorable response? You're 45 and acting like this??

Him: U do not deserve any different when u r rude. U get what u give. Goes both ways and dont care. U suck. Sorry have another date tonight. U r backup dont bother me u lose rude woman

Me: I'm sorry but calling you 3 hrs to tell you I can't make it tonight and would like to reschedule is not rude. I don't know where you got your manners from but you are completely out of line.

Him: From women like u. So r u take responsbilitiy for your behavior. Works both ways.

Me: Stop texting me

Him: Yes stop texting me. U r harassing me. I have no money for u. Do not contact me again


I mean WTF??? Are you Fing kidding me??

[Miss Crabcakes]

Wow. Just wow. I'm surprised you engaged him in all that text dialogue.

He's a huge loser. Sorryyou had to deal with that.

[2mares]

LOL. Sounds like my ex DIL. You cant reason with crazy. Be glad you didnt make it on that date.

Im so glad Im not dating.

[himain]

Originally Posted by Miss Crabcakes

Wow. Just wow. I'm surprised you engaged him in all that text dialogue.

He's a huge loser. Sorryyou had to deal with that.

He wouldn't stop texting me. I wasn't going to allow him to speak to me like that and not respond. I'm pretty proud of myself for taking the high road and not writing what I really wanted to say

[Trimac20]

Well at least you saved yourself any further trouble by actually going out on a date with the guy.

Are you suggesting that most guys you meet online are like this?

[fishbrains]

He sounds very insecure.

From his point of view, he probably thinks that when you said something came up, you had another date with a guy you preferred over him. Which is not an unreasonable thought given that you had never met in person.

That does not excuse his behaviour. It is boorish in immature.

Better luck next time, and hope your evening with your mother was enjoyable.

[noela]

wow, what a catch. Such a mature, reasonable man. Aren't you sorry it didn't work out? lol

[himain]

I mean if he could speak to me like that without even meeting me..He's probably a woman hitter. I mean this guy was like almost yelling at me on the phone!!

[recuerdeme]

Originally Posted by himain

You guys are gonna love this. I swear ONLY me again!! Kinda long so enjoy!!

So I went back on Match and of course I'm getting responses from people I would NEVER consider but that goes with the game. However, a 45 yo guy who caught my eye had emailed me so I gave him my cell after a few emails and he called me yesterday morning. We had a decent conversation except he was hasseling me about my cat Anyways, we decided to meet for some drinks at 6:30. Well around 3:30 my mother (who's sick with stage 3 lung cancer) calls me and asks me if I'd like to come over and make stuffed shells with her and have dinner with my parents. So of course I'm going to spend time with my sick mother over any first date because I don't know if she'll be around next year. So I call the guy and tell him that somethings come up and ask if we could reschedule. The guy was ok with rescheduling. I said I had plans Thurs and Friday so if he wanted to get together Sat if he was available that would be great. He said that he doesn't like making plans that far ahead. He then says "When you want to go out with me, you call me" and hangs up! I call him back and asked if he hung up on me? He starts telling me I'm rude for cancelling and that obviously I'm not interested. I said "I could have texted you instead of calling you but I called you and it's 3 hours prior not 20 mins. I am interested in meeting you so that's why I asked if you would be available Saturday." Then the guy goes on a rant about how all women are selfish and I'm just the typical woman and basically berates me!! I said "Obviously this isn't going to work out and I wish you luck on Match" and hang up.

Here comes the fun part!! He starts texting me these crazy ass texts. Keep in mind this guy is a successful 45 year old.

Him: U r a joke and a liar. U r single and alone. Games and unsolicited advice unacceptable. Selfish girl bad news. U made plans break plans. U r unreliable person.

Me: What?? Do you actually speak to a woman like that and expect to get a favorable response? You're 45 and acting like this??

Him: U do not deserve any different when u r rude. U get what u give. Goes both ways and dont care. U suck. Sorry have another date tonight. U r backup dont bother me u lose rude woman

Me: I'm sorry but calling you 3 hrs to tell you I can't make it tonight and would like to reschedule is not rude. I don't know where you got your manners from but you are completely out of line.

Him: From women like u. So r u take responsbilitiy for your behavior. Works both ways.

Me: Stop texting me

Him: Yes stop texting me. U r harassing me. I have no money for u. Do not contact me again


I mean WTF??? Are you Fing kidding me??

So you hurt a guys feelings because you canceled on him and we are supposed to comfort you because the guy is "lashing out"?

What do you want shug?

[just anotherguy]

count your blessings and go have a beer to celebrate