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The guy is a creep.. You must attract creeps if this is why you are single.. I mean, really, how many crazy, psychotic women are there on Match?? Try to find a gentleman who is polite, compassionate and well-mannered. A good man would have asked if there is anything he could have done to help your mother and would have not took any offense at all..
If a guy cancelled on me 3 hours before our date with no explanation, there would be no rescheduling. That's super rude.
But you were in luck in that the guy totally trumped your rudeness by being worse.
This is how I see it too. You ended up playing the 'who can be ruder game'. Not good.
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Originally Posted by himain
I'm sorry but I don't believe I owe anyone my personal family business until I feel they are ready to know it. It's none of his business why I had to reschedule PERIOD!!! I don't even know the guy!! And cancelling 3 hours prior is NOT last minute. If I wasn't interested, I wouldn't have mentioned rescheduling NOR calling the guy. I would have simply sent a text.
A simple: 'A family emergency has come up and I will not be able to make it tonight. I am so sorry to have to cancel last minute, but hope you understand and we can reschedule some time soon. Are you available on Friday or Saturday?'
Would have covered it. He is not a mind reader. He is not in your head. 3 hours before IS pretty last minute. He does not know that if you hadn't been interested you would have just texted. Try thinking things through from other view points. Seriously if you listened without getting defensive you may actually find you have better luck communicating pleasantly with the next one!
Maybe you messaged someone out of your league and he thought you should be more creative.... What happened to finding some sort of common ground and engaging that way? Rather than passively bemoaning online dating.
Meeting someone online is really a hit or miss situation and you happened to hook up with a dog. I agree with everyone who says it's his loss, not yours, and just consider it a brief waste of time and move on.
So I sent an email to a guy yesterday saying exactly this: Hey you. I saw your profile and was interetsted. I don't have exactly what you are looking for but I thought I'd drop you a line anyways. So is Match as exciting for you as it has been for me? LOL (signed name) (I accidentally inserted an extra T in interested. Simple typo error that I didn't see)
This is the response I get this morning:
You should probably spell-check your copy & paste e-mail before you send it out to a bunch of people you're "interetsted" in
My response: Excuse me? Wow, I accidentally inserted a letter and you turn around an insinuate things?? Why are you even on here?
Him: I insinuated what I did because your e-mail was so blatantly generic that I'm sure it was sent to a bunch of people, typo and all. And you're absolutely right, I've resorted to internet dating because of my inability to hit it off with a cat lady/CougarLife.com reject who struggles with spelling
I didn't even respond. WTF is that??? I mean unbelievable.
Maybe you need to do it the old fashion way and get out there and meet somebody. I've never done internet dating or whatever, but it seems from reading yours and other people's post on CD that most of the people on the dating websites are angry, jaded, bitter people.
So I sent an email to a guy yesterday saying exactly this: Hey you. I saw your profile and was interetsted. I don't have exactly what you are looking for but I thought I'd drop you a line anyways. So is Match as exciting for you as it has been for me? LOL (signed name) (I accidentally inserted an extra T in interested. Simple typo error that I didn't see)
This is the response I get this morning:
You should probably spell-check your copy & paste e-mail before you send it out to a bunch of people you're "interetsted" in
My response: Excuse me? Wow, I accidentally inserted a letter and you turn around an insinuate things?? Why are you even on here?
Him: I insinuated what I did because your e-mail was so blatantly generic that I'm sure it was sent to a bunch of people, typo and all. And you're absolutely right, I've resorted to internet dating because of my inability to hit it off with a cat lady/CougarLife.com reject who struggles with spelling
I didn't even respond. WTF is that??? I mean unbelievable.
Lol! These stories are great. I'm a grammar nazi as well, but I wouldn't reject possibly good sex because of it. :P
I understand both sides until the guy went off his rocker. If someone cancelled on me three hours before with little explanation I would assume this was a "flake-out." I've had enough of these to know that it usually means "I changed my mind" or "I found someone else." I don't consider three hours to be "last minute" but some people like to make plans in advance and this guy could have turned down other opportunities to go on this date.
I'm sure not all guys on dating sites are douches, but the ones who are overshadow the good guys. I've had issues with women on dating sites, but there are plenty of good ones.
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