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I'm a young college educated (black American) professional woman.
I'm very observant, and I've noticed (for some odd reason), people tend to usually react in a negative fashion towards me. Perhaps it's because I make them uncomfortable. For the record, there is nothing inherently intimidating about my presence. I'm actually quite petite. I take a great deal of pride in my appearance, as well as my professional work.
I've been told that I look 10 to 13 years younger than my actual age. Most people would probably mistake me for an 18 year old (in appearance alone). Much of this is due to the fact that I have never drank any form of alcohol or used any illicit drugs. I absolutely abhor bars, clubs, and lounges. Also, I must admit that genetics plays a role as well. I have dark skin; therefore, I'm less prone to age. I've noticed that other women in their late 20's/ early 30's (particularly white women) often look closer to 40 something. I'm wondering if this plays any role in why I'm perceived so negatively?
When I show up at meetings in my professional suits and heels, people seem to always take a double look. It's almost as if they are uncomfortable with confronting the realization that black American women are not a monolithic group. I strongly dislike rap/hip hop because it promotes the most destructive images of black women around the world. Unfortunately, people who have never even encountered a black woman, will often believe that we are all about partying and sex. I take a great deal of pride in my overall appearance and I go out of my way to dispel the negative stereotypes that are often associated with black women. I tend to be very conservative (in the truest sense). I would never engage in any form of pre-marital sex!
I do however realize that we are all individuals; therefore, I never judge others. I'm simply wondering why people tend to judge me so harshly. It's very odd, but sometimes I get the feeling that people are uncomfortable because I do not fit the 'sassy/finger snapping/ghetto' stereotype.
It's very sad that conservative black women, such as myself are ostracized for having values and morals.
I think pretty, smart people are often perceived harshly - people don't like to confront their biases or stereotypes. The best advice I can give you is NOT to take it to heart. There is a book with the title: "What You Think of Me is None of My Business," and it is absolutely true.
Don't let other people define you. Find a few good friends and enjoy them - don't expect strangers to like you and you won't be disappointed. Also, be as polite and friendly as possible without being a kiss-ass. Good luck.
I think pretty, smart people are often perceived harshly - people don't like to confront their biases or stereotypes. The best advice I can give you is NOT to take it to heart. There is a book with the title: "What You Think of Me is None of My Business," and it is absolutely true.
Don't let other people define you. Find a few good friends and enjoy them - don't expect strangers to like you and you won't be disappointed. Also, be as polite and friendly as possible without being a kiss-ass. Good luck.
You're correct; I shouldn't worry so much about strangers. Also, for the record, I always try to be cordial.
That’s the image I had, a young Condoeza Rice (My dream woman)
It's probably a combination of things: She’s in a professional environment, in a suit. but looks like a kid combined with worrying about what people are thinking of her.
I can't help the fact that I look very youthful. It's a combination of genetics, healthy eating and actively exercising (on a consistent basis) my mind, spirit and body...
You seem to have good self-esteem...don't worry about what others think. We could speculate all day as to the reasons(bias or jealous)...but you can only control you!!Good luck!
I can't help the fact that I look very youthful. It's a combination of genetics, healthy eating and actively exercising (on a consistent basis) my mind, spirit and body...
Pictures or you're just bluffing.
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OP, you sound extremely boring, uptight, and not the type of person most people wish to be around when they're trying to kick back and have a good time.
I think it has to do with your race. People like to stereotype others especially black women. Common complaints about black women from different races of men are "attitude". How stupid. Not all black women are the same. There is probably a deeper meaning people should say what they really want to say.... In the end it just boils down to racism.
You will NEVER be accepted by white people, just look at obama ( I am not a fan of him either but you get the point) He doesn't act like a stereotypical black man yet the white & asian people still hate him. Asian people are quite racist against black people. Whites have always been racist against black people. You have nothing or anybody to blame but society.
I think it has to do with your race. People like to stereotype others especially black women. Common complaints about black women from different races of men are "attitude". How stupid. Not all black women are the same. There is probably a deeper meaning people should say what they really want to say.... In the end it just boils down to racism.
You will NEVER be accepted by white people, just look at obama ( I am not a fan of him either but you get the point) He doesn't act like a stereotypical black man yet the white & asian people still hate him. Asian people are quite racist against black people. Whites have always been racist against black people. You have nothing or anybody to blame but society.
I think it has to do with your race. People like to stereotype others especially black women. Common complaints about black women from different races of men are "attitude". How stupid. Not all black women are the same. There is probably a deeper meaning people should say what they really want to say.... In the end it just boils down to racism.
You will NEVER be accepted by white people, just look at obama ( I am not a fan of him either but you get the point) He doesn't act like a stereotypical black man yet the white & asian people still hate him. Asian people are quite racist against black people. Whites have always been racist against black people. You have nothing or anybody to blame but society.
You are turning out to be quite the complete and absolute bigot.
Do you realize that more whites voted for Obama then did blacks??
You offend me with your racist rants about white people, this isn't the first time you've said this type of thing before.
I think it has to do with your race. People like to stereotype others especially black women. Common complaints about black women from different races of men are "attitude". How stupid. Not all black women are the same. There is probably a deeper meaning people should say what they really want to say.... In the end it just boils down to racism.
You will NEVER be accepted by white people, just look at obama ( I am not a fan of him either but you get the point) He doesn't act like a stereotypical black man yet the white & asian people still hate him. Asian people are quite racist against black people. Whites have always been racist against black people. You have nothing or anybody to blame but society.
IMO, the racism is at its worst in the south and midwest. I grew up about half an hour north of Miami and went to a pretty mixed high school. If people are around other races from a young age, they're less likely to be racist. For me, the town I grew up in was mixed though I grew up on the upper class side of it. Here in big cities(especially NYC and LA), they are very mixed so people are generally accepting of others. In some little hick town in Kansas, you're not going to find that.
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