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Does anyone have a story of when they got friend-zoned inititally but the other person eventually fall in love with them?
That happens a lot in movies but I'm not sure if it's common in real life.
I did get friend-zoned by a girl. I was bitter about but now I'm just happy that we're still (good) friends. Since we're both in our early 20s, she might not be mature enough. Maybe she'll change her mind after 5 years.
I sure do dude.
A friend of mine met a woman in his early 20s, and was smitten. Love at first sight type deal. He decided to pursue her with all his energy. At first, she totally declined. After about a year or so, she started to cave a bit and I think there might have been a small amount of physical action (maybe a little kissing or so).
Soon after, she left the country and him. He continued to fly to her home country several times a year. She eventually got married to another man and had a child. He kept at it. Finally, after about ten years, and waiting out a divorce and a child with another man, she just caved in last year and he put a ring around her finger.
That's persistence my friends.
Just as a sidenote, he did pursue some other women on the side but didn't fare so well as far as I know. But she was always his #1 goal.
A friend of mine met a woman in his early 20s, and was smitten. Love at first sight type deal. He decided to pursue her with all his energy. At first, she totally declined. After about a year or so, she started to cave a bit and I think there might have been a small amount of physical action (maybe a little kissing or so).
Soon after, she left the country and him. He continued to fly to her home country several times a year. She eventually got married to another man and had a child. He kept at it. Finally, after about ten years, and waiting out a divorce and a child with another man, she just caved in last year and he put a ring around her finger.
That's persistence my friends.
Just as a sidenote, he did pursue some other women on the side but didn't fare so well as far as I know. But she was always his #1 goal.
A friend of mine met a woman in his early 20s, and was smitten. Love at first sight type deal. He decided to pursue her with all his energy. At first, she totally declined. After about a year or so, she started to cave a bit and I think there might have been a small amount of physical action (maybe a little kissing or so).
Soon after, she left the country and him. He continued to fly to her home country several times a year. She eventually got married to another man and had a child. He kept at it. Finally, after about ten years, and waiting out a divorce and a child with another man, she just caved in last year and he put a ring around her finger.
That's persistence my friends.
Just as a sidenote, he did pursue some other women on the side but didn't fare so well as far as I know. But she was always his #1 goal.
So, yes, it can happen.
I wouldn't pursue anybody that much. I need the other person to have some interest in me.
A friend of mine met a woman in his early 20s, and was smitten. Love at first sight type deal. He decided to pursue her with all his energy. At first, she totally declined. After about a year or so, she started to cave a bit and I think there might have been a small amount of physical action (maybe a little kissing or so).
Soon after, she left the country and him. He continued to fly to her home country several times a year. She eventually got married to another man and had a child. He kept at it. Finally, after about ten years, and waiting out a divorce and a child with another man, she just caved in last year and he put a ring around her finger.
That's persistence my friends.
Just as a sidenote, he did pursue some other women on the side but didn't fare so well as far as I know. But she was always his #1 goal.
So, yes, it can happen.
He wasn't getting her because he was pursuing her too hard and too much and it isn't endearing it's desperation - pretty much an unattractive quality.
And what is so great about being someone's consolation prize?
Not necessarily. I had a friend that my other friends wanted me to date. He was beautiful, had a great personality, was a super nice guy, but I just wasn't attracted to him. I don't know why because I knew he was really attractive, but I still had no interest in anything romantic with him. Sometimes there's just no interest other than friendship.
He wasn't getting her because he was pursuing her too hard and too much and it isn't endearing it's desperation - pretty much an unattractive quality.
And what is so great about being someone's consolation prize?
To you it is desperation...
To her, it was her best friend who had proved over the course of a decade worth of life that he was willing to put her above all else in life, save maybe his own immediate family, including doing anything for her including caring for another man's child.
Instead she should marry some pretty boy who has three children with three different mothers because he gets her hot between the legs? Uh-huh...
I'm not condoning this approach but I do respect my friend for managing to scratch and claw his way out of the friendzone.
Not necessarily. I had a friend that my other friends wanted me to date. He was beautiful, had a great personality, was a super nice guy, but I just wasn't attracted to him. I don't know why because I knew he was really attractive, but I still had no interest in anything romantic with him. Sometimes there's just no interest other than friendship.
Every now and then there is a woman like you who comes along who looks for things other than looks I'd say. But it's rare.
To her, it was her best friend who had proved over the course of a decade worth of life that he was willing to put her above all else in life, save maybe his own immediate family, including doing anything for her including caring for another man's child.
Instead she should marry some pretty boy who has three children with three different mothers because he gets her hot between the legs? Uh-huh...
I'm not condoning this approach but I do respect my friend for managing to scratch and claw his way out of the friendzone.
She moved on and lived her life with another man and had a family with him and he was pining away for her and when she was standing there alone without a husband anymore he was an issue of convenience - a father for her kids. How the hell would you even know what it was to her or what she was thinking.
He was her LAST RESORT not her first choice, but he'll do now that she's been dumped and strapped with the kids.
And no one said anything about marrying some pretty boy. See you can't even read a post how in the world do you think you could read her mind.
Trust me, I know many women who have pulled this maneuver.
What is so great about him begging for friggin scraps???
Sorry to be harsh, but lets not sugar coat this shall we.
Well, you know, everybody lives their own lives.
He knew that she was what he wanted. She was pretty, well dressed, trophy wifeish (at least when she was younger ), and a decent person. I knew her as well and was friends with her back then. He's into being the provider and the breadwinner role.
Why does it matter how you got there as long as you end up where you wanna be?
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