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I don't blame women for getting fat though. You got your ring, you won. Who are you tryin to impress anymore? Your loser friends? You already Did that at the wedding. Theirs simply no motivation anymore.
That's one of the reasons I dont see myself getting married
I think it's genetics..that x chromosome . Men never gain weight once they settle down. Never.
Let's also keep in mind that when you're young and get married, you're still young. The hell do you have to do except show up to work and pay the bills?
Then you grow up and the kids come into play. The woman's bound to put on a few pounds from pregnancy alone. Dad might have to put in more hours or take on a promotion that requires more work. Long story short, life gets a little more stressful and you find yourself with less free time. I think stress is the biggest part, IIRC highly stressed people put on more weight more easily.
Not everyone does. I've always tried my best to keep my weight at a certain point. I work out 5-6 times a week, and eat healthy and watch what I eat. I've always been like this, even before getting into relationships, even WHEN in relationships. That's just how I am. My mom is the same. I was raised that as a woman you have to keep yourself looking nice, and keep in shape, be attractive, etc. That is the belief I still have. Granted I have days where I don't put in as much effort, but my weight is one of those things that I'm just not careless with. I had a baby 10 months ago, and worked(and still work) very hard losing the weight. I've lost most of it, and am already back to a good(smaller) size, and expect to be back where I want to be, by the time my child is one. That being said, I do notice that there are SOME women and men that just let themselves go in relationships and marriages. And maybe it is a case of comfort, stress, etc. I had a friend who got married last year, and literally by the second month she looked like she had put on 15 pounds. It was weird because while she has always had somewhat of an issue trying to maintain her weight, I had never seen her get that careless about it. She was very happy though.
No it isn't. Half his assets are the prize when she files for divorce. Duh
^^Is it bad that I'm not sure whether or not I'm kidding?^^
I wish my sister got that prize. Instead she lost her home and went through bankruptcy because of her ex-husband's "hard work" and honest dealings. But hey, the ring covered part of her attorneys' fees.
Let's also keep in mind that when you're young and get married, you're still young. The hell do you have to do except show up to work and pay the bills?
Then you grow up and the kids come into play. The woman's bound to put on a few pounds from pregnancy alone. Dad might have to put in more hours or take on a promotion that requires more work. Long story short, life gets a little more stressful and you find yourself with less free time. I think stress is the biggest part, IIRC highly stressed people put on more weight more easily.
I was hoping that the OP would have taken the time to discuss this. I challenged him to explore WHY people gain weight after they are married. I suppose that was a bit too much for him. In addition to what you've stated above, the fact that people tend to slow down physically as they grow older. And I'm not talking senior citizen older, I mean from 25 to 35 things begin to slow down for many. When I was 22 I could eat anything I wanted without fear of gaining weight. Now I'm 32 and watch what I eat much more so than when I was younger. But it took me a couple years before I really caught on that my metabolism was slowing down. Some people don't catch on at all. This goes for single people too. Maybe single people have more time to devote to fitness than married people do as both groups reach this stage in their lives.
I wish my sister got that prize. Instead she lost her home and went through bankruptcy because of her ex-husband's "hard work" and honest dealings. But hey, the ring covered part of her attorneys' fees.
That sucks. Let me guess. He worked in the world of finance and totally dicked his clients as well as himself and your sister?
Yeah. Suppose she falls in love with a guy who cannot afford to give her a nice ring. Suppose she doesn't care. Suppose she loves the guy for who he is? Herein lies the problem with looking at marriage as a matter of "winning a prize." It's not a prize. It's a lifelong partnership (ideally).
In their minds EVERY woman is out to rip guys off.
You've got to wonder what kind of sad home lives these guys have come from to be so twisted.
Kind of makes you wonder what their hands are doing when they aren't being used to type foolish posts...
(please forgive me, Mods. It had to be said. )
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Instead she lost her home and went through bankruptcy because of her ex-husband's "hard work" and honest dealings. But hey, the ring covered part of her attorneys' fees.
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