How do you cope with being ugly and hopelessly single? (attractiveness, attractive)
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In the end...we are exactly (for better or worse) what we project to the world...consciously or subconsciously. So, I say make up your mind and decide who and what you want to be and then just be IT!
It's all up to YOU and only YOU!
I find this to be true. I always had low self esteem due to being bullied in school. I was too tall as a kid, and had curly hair (curly hair was seen as ugly back then) so i was percieved as ugly, therefore felt like it for many many years (and now i look at the pics and realize i was beautiful). The outside perception changed drastically when i turned 18 and moved cities, and guys started telling me i was beautiful, etc, and always been nice to me. BUT deep down there was this clumsy, awkward girl from high school still trying to pull out. Lately, though, after ending my LTR with the love of my life (or so i thought) ive experienced a rediscover of myself and now i feel preettier than ever. Not only people are telling me this, it seems that i project such confidence that im being treated way better than ever. People smile at me on the streets, clerks are super attentive, men hit on me 24/7, etc.
Is the way i look now different from what i looked 2 months ago when i felt ugly and nobody looked at me or treated me well?
Nah, i look exactly the same
then whats going on? what i project to the world has changed. Beauty comes from within. I swear
You were probably one of the women who grew in beauty, but did not notice it in your 18's yet
Confidence has nothing to do with it.
Btw., here are 2 common reactions from the real life, when you are:
1) Confident & good looking:
"Your charisma and self esteem is astonishing."
2) Confident & worse looking:
"How dare you to be so confident with your looks?. What are you thinking about yourself !?!"
Oh, I get 2 a lot. I've actually had people (mostly women) ask me how I could possibly be so confident when I was so 'unfortunate' looking. They think it's a compliment? Or the backhanded 'wow, I could NEVER wear heels/do my hair/wear that dress' if I looked like you! Or maybe the guy who told me that he wished he could put my personality into that 'hot blonde' at the end of the bar.
I have boatloads of confidence (even though I know it may not seem that way by some of my posts here) and it's helped me with my career and helped me make a ton of friends. Never helped me in the romance department.
Students kiss the other students!! It will be a great way to meet people. Plus, you eliminate the surprise factor! Have you ever been in a date with a very good looking man/woman and when it was time to kiss them....YUCK?? Sophies kissing workshop eliminate this awful surprises cause here you will kiss the person FIRST and then ask them out
win win
But nobody's gonna kiss the ugly ones. This is why we're having these problems now.
Oh, I get 2 a lot. I've actually had people (mostly women) ask me how I could possibly be so confident when I was so 'unfortunate' looking. They think it's a compliment? Or the backhanded 'wow, I could NEVER wear heels/do my hair/wear that dress' if I looked like you! Or maybe the guy who told me that he wished he could put my personality into that 'hot blonde' at the end of the bar.
I have boatloads of confidence (even though I know it may not seem that way by some of my posts here) and it's helped me with my career and helped me make a ton of friends. Never helped me in the romance department.
He was a bit drunk...but it was a sweet sentiment nonetheless.
A friend of mine told me I just look like the type of person you can always tell the truth to and I'll never really 'flip out' about it. I guess I just come across as fairly laid back and calm so people tend to just blurt out whatever is on their mind.
He was a bit drunk...but it was a sweet sentiment nonetheless.
A friend of mine told me I just look like the type of person you can always tell the truth to and I'll never really 'flip out' about it. I guess I just come across as fairly laid back and calm so people tend to just blurt out whatever is on their mind.
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. Plus, you eliminate the surprise factor! Have you ever been in a date with a very good looking man/woman and when it was time to kiss them....YUCK??
