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I'm generally considered good looking and attractive, but I struggle with dating because i'm also naturally very shy or reserved.
Shyness is broadly speaking much more of a curse to men than looks because even without looks there's a host of other traits men can display to be a success with women. Traits like confidence, assertiveness, extroversion and social dominance will get you dates and get you laid, shy and reserved guys don't naturally display that. If you can add good looks to that too in addition then it just makes it easier.
And my point about beautiful people is they have just as a hard time as "ugly" if you think about it deeply. Yes they get things in life a lot easier but for all the wrong reasons simply based on their looks. There is more to a human being besides looks.
If I could switch right now with a beautiful person and inherit all of the "problems" they have, I'd do it without a second thought.
... to say that beautiful people have it "just as bad" as ugly people is just laughably absurd.
That's true ... we all have problems, of course, but studies have shown that attractive people get a "free pass" in many situations. Unattractive people tend to have to prove themselves from the get-go.
So I am 26 and never been on a date. I'm quite ugly, though I am in shape physically, well educated, and have a good white collar job. I just suck with women and it's extremely lonely being me. How do others who are in similar situation cope being ugly and single with zero prospects in sight.
Learn to love yourself first. I've seen "average" maybe even "below average" looking guys get with women that I would consider 8-9 out of 10s. You know why? They had swagger and confidence. They know how to make women comfortable around them and how to playfully flirt (something I hope to learn how to do well too...).
Just like you, I was a late bloomer. I had my first date in my early 20s. I took a ton of advice from friends who had more experience and it paid off. I can comfortably say my first date was a solid 8-9 out of 10. An attractive woman that a lot of my friends knew of. Granted it was a pretty casual date and nothing really came out of it but it gave me all the confidence in the world.
Previously, I tried doing dating apps for a whole year without really approaching girls and it was a disaster. I think I talked to only a handful of girls and none of them were interested in setting up a date.
ASK friends for advice and if you trust your male friends enough ask them what they would recommend for that girl you like. Make sure you can trust them though, you don't want that friend who would say I won't say anything and then text whoever you were talking about once you leave saying "So and so says he likes you"
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