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Unless you try to date very attractive women, then you wouldn't have any problem find a date. Join a meetup of your favorite activities, and meet people in real life. Most of all, stop thinking of yourself as ugly, and work on your social skill. Don't ask every woman you meet for a date like someone suggested above. However, being friendly (by greeting people with a smile, being helpful), and develop a good (not creepy) sense of humor will go a long way. Get to know women as friends and develop into something more meaningful. The more they like you and feel more comfortable with you, the more attractive you are to them.
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Originally Posted by Nut4sweets
Unless you try to date very attractive women, then you wouldn't have any problem find a date. Join a meetup of your favorite activities, and meet people in real life. Most of all, stop thinking of yourself as ugly, and work on your social skill. Don't ask every woman you meet for a date like someone suggested above. However, being friendly (by greeting people with a smile, being helpful), and develop a good (not creepy) sense of humor will go a long way. Get to know women as friends and develop into something more meaningful. The more they like you and feel more comfortable with you, the more attractive you are to them.
....then you will land safely in the friendzone. Friends first just does not work. Be down front with your preference after getting to know them a bit.
I am not going to ask a random woman I don't know on a date. That's just creeper status.
I don't agree with this.
If you can't ask out random women, who are you gonna ask out? Someone you know? Someone you're friends with already? Do you have to know someone in order to ask them out? You're just asking them out, not for their hand in marriage. There's all these threads about why women don't approach and all, but if a man approaches it's creepy? I don't exactly advise to walk up and say "Hi! My name is whatever and I wanna go out with you". But I don't see anything wrong with asking random girls out. How else do you get a date? I've done it before and have gotten dates. I also sent a random message to a girl online on a non-dating site and wound up having a relationship that lasted over 5 years because of it. If they like you, they won't think it's creepy.
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Originally Posted by The Dissenter
....then you will land safely in the friendzone. Friends first just does not work. Be down front with your preference after getting to know them a bit.
I've been over this ad nauseum. I think it's okay to go out with people you were friends with first and sometimes it works. But for it to have to be a requirement is beyond ridiculous. If I like someone, I ain't interested in being friends only. I'm also not interested in being her friend for 6 months or whatever time before FINALLY asking her out.
If you can't ask out random women, who are you gonna ask out? Someone you know? Someone you're friends with already? Do you have to know someone in order to ask them out? You're just asking them out, not for their hand in marriage. There's all these threads about why women don't approach and all, but if a man approaches it's creepy? I don't exactly advise to walk up and say "Hi! My name is whatever and I wanna go out with you". But I don't see anything wrong with asking random girls out. How else do you get a date? I've done it before and have gotten dates. I also sent a random message to a girl online on a non-dating site and wound up having a relationship that lasted over 5 years because of it. If they like you, they won't think it's creepy.
I've been over this ad nauseum. I think it's okay to go out with people you were friends with first and sometimes it works. But for it to have to be a requirement is beyond ridiculous. If I like someone, I ain't interested in being friends only. I'm also not interested in being her friend for 6 months or whatever time before FINALLY asking her out.
Last time I did that a female poster got on me for being shallow for doing that. It's like I am asking her out because of how she looks and I want to change that.
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Friends first just does not work. Be down front with your preference after getting to know them a bit.
