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So I am 26 and never been on a date. I'm quite ugly, though I am in shape physically, well educated, and have a good white collar job. I just suck with women and it's extremely lonely being me. How do others who are in similar situation cope being ugly and single with zero prospects in sight.
Do you perceive yourself as "quite ugly" or everyone you met said so? You seems like a good catch, but you need to work on your self-esteem, and be more confident. My gorgeous, smart, social, successful cousin was married (her husband passed away now) to a not very attractive, blue-collar man. When she sent me her wedding pic, it really puzzled me why she would marry a man that's so incompatible in look, and not even successful as she is. After I met him and talked to him for an afternoon, and saw how he treated her, I knew why. He's funny, out-going, social, confident, and very knowledgeable about many things. He also treated my cousin and her family like gold. I forgot how unattractive he looked, and started focusing on how nice and interesting he was.
Dude jeez louise. Just STOP. If you are proud to say you are ugly and is proud to say these negative outlook in life each and EVERY time, man, WTF, already. I mean yes! You really will not find anyone!!!
If I, a bonafide 40 yr old virgin was able to find a man and now married. YOU CAN TOO!
You know what I did? I started believing in myself, I started LOVING myself. It has to start with YOU. You have to or you really are gonna die alone.
You have to have faith in humanity and most importantly, YOURSELF, for goodness sake.
You won't get anywhere with this.
That poster gets off on self-flagellation and extracting other people's pity for his own pleasure. He is addicted to it and is always looking for people like us to be his "drug" or device for getting off.
Actually, there are several of these addicts posting in this thread. Maybe they could get together in a circle jerk of pity and leave us out of it?
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Originally Posted by VanillaChocolate
If a man is a virgin that long, he's chosen to be. Some guys would probably, or could, get a hooker by then. That's not ideal. And it's note a cure all for other issues. But it does get the guy the bare minimum of just sex to finally scratch that itch with something other than his hand, or a fleshlight.
One poster here mentioned that if they didn't meet a woman, and lose their virginity by their 29th b-day, they were just gonna cut out the middle man and go to a hooker. But he has been a virgin by choice, because women have been interested in him. However, he thought all of them were ugly, so he passed on dating or sleeping with them. Same for women. They probably had men they didn't like interested in them, so they rejected the guy's advances.
I think there's also escort services for women, but they have to really be searched for, since the sex industry is predominantly male-oriented.
Think your referring to me. First, the hooker thing is not gonna happen since I'm in the running for a couple of local government jobs and it ain't worth the risk.
Second, there is no guarantee that even if I had pursued the "choices" I had it would have ended with the panties dropping. Third, yeah I had choices, but it's like having the choice hit with a bat by two guys or being jumped by six guys. Both choices sucked so I decided not to waste the time of the girls I just didn't have an interest in.
Yeah, my virginity is a choice but I don't exactly have other good choices to choose from.
"This is the paradox of self-pity: Those who feel genuinely sorry for themselves don't need to talk about it. Thus they tend not to come across as self-pitying, and are more likely to receive pity from others.
Those who fail to pity themselves are less likely to receive pity from others because their unmet need creates off-putting behaviors that repel, rather than attract, compassion.
The only way out of the vicious circle is to (w)allow in their true feelings, and show themselves the pity they crave."
Think your referring to me. First, the hooker thing is not gonna happen since I'm in the running for a couple of local government jobs and it ain't worth the risk.
Second, there is no guarantee that even if I had pursued the "choices" I had it would have ended with the panties dropping. Third, yeah I had choices, but it's like having the choice hit with a bat by two guys or being jumped by six guys. Both choices sucked so I decided not to waste the time of the girls I just didn't have an interest in.
Yeah, my virginity is a choice but I don't exactly have other good choices to choose from.
Think your referring to me. First, the hooker thing is not gonna happen since I'm in the running for a couple of local government jobs and it ain't worth the risk.
Second, there is no guarantee that even if I had pursued the "choices" I had it would have ended with the panties dropping. Third, yeah I had choices, but it's like having the choice hit with a bat by two guys or being jumped by six guys. Both choices sucked so I decided not to waste the time of the girls I just didn't have an interest in.
Yeah, my virginity is a choice but I don't exactly have other good choices to choose from.
Are you certain that you're in the position to cast aspersions on how another person looks?
I haven't been on a date in almost three months and haven't even attempted to ask a woman out. Do women find me unattractive? Possibly they do but it doesn't bother me. I have better things to do than worry about what some random woman thinks of me. It isn't even that serious tbh.
OP posted this 5 years ago I am sure he has moved on by now.
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