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Google search... Thanks for your unique and original contribution to this thread. If you have to put together a cost/benefit analysis, you probably shouldn't be having kids.
Look, I understand it isn't something to take lightly or just decide on an impulse one day. But come on, who does this? You either want to have a child of your own or you don't.
The fact that the only thing you can pick on in all of the arguments I have made in this thread is that I did a Google search for that link (kind of how you should have done a search on these forums for how this subject has already been discussed numerous times) tells me more than I needed to know.
The amount of reps I received just for the posts in this thread alone is enough to know I'm not crazy for making my points.
I do want to genuinely thank everyone that contributed so far. Much more enlightening and entertaining than the subjects of porn, online dating, and the pity parties people like to throw themselves here. The only thing that really offended me was the sow remark. We're all adults here and I can respect differing views, even if I don't understand where they are coming from.
So what's wrong with the institution of marriage? Any takers?
Real mature. You need to get over yourself. I know how you always talk and act like you think you're better than everyone. Did I personally attack you or something? No.
Let me ask you guys something, why are you all making such a big deal over this thread and some things a few people said anyway? It's not going to matter in five or ten years from now.
All the OP did was ask a question and look where it's gotten to. A bunch of poster bickering and acting like little kids. Ridiculous.
Why are you posting in a thread that has nothing to do with your life choices if not to give us all the benefit of your wisdom (with no experience)?
Are you saying that you're not bickering or making "you're wrong" statements about those who choose not to marry or breed?
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Originally Posted by 90sman
I've wondered that myself. I can understand a person not wanting kids because they don't have enough money or are too old but if it's because you dislike kids and are worried about it cramming your lifestyle, then that's a little bit selfish. What does it say about a person when they don't like kids? We were all kids at one point, it's ridiculous and a contradiction to dislike kids.
For getting married but not having children, some couples get married late in life so they can't have kids or some people have kids from a previous marriage.
College- I don't know why so many brought that up. Yes college is expensive but the majority of the population doesn't have a college degree anyway. So most likely your kids won't graduate college.
I want a big family myself but due to the cost of living, 3 or 4 kids would probably be ideal for me.
Judgment anyone?
Don't like my comments, might I suggest the "ignore" feature.
It works wonders.
I do want to genuinely thank everyone that contributed so far. Much more enlightening and entertaining than the subjects of porn, online dating, and the pity parties people like to throw themselves here. The only thing that really offended me was the sow remark. We're all adults here and I can respect differing views, even if I don't understand where they are coming from.
So what's wrong with the institution of marriage? Any takers?
I don't think there is anything wrong with the institution of marriage. This is even with the fact that my first marriage wasn't wonderful.
I am divorced and do plan on marrying again. My aunt asks me why. She tells me I have already been married and had my children. She says to me that it is just a legality.
I really don't feel of it as such, and it means so much more to me to give yourself to that person, to love, honor and cherish them, for all the days of your life....
Or you could just live together. I prefer the former, marriage.
So what's wrong with the institution of marriage? Any takers?
Nothing's wrong with the institution, it's just not something I need to be with someone forever.
I dont dislike those who are married or judge them, however, people on this forum pass a lot of judgment on those who dont believe in the construct. Assuming we're all cheaters who cant be monogamous or have commitment issues.
Some people just don't want to have children. There doesn't have to be a reason. Sometimes there is, sometimes there isn't. Sometimes people change their mind - sometimes they don't. Same with marriage. Some people don't need to have a government recognized marriage to validate their relationship - some do. I did. And I wanted children. To each their own.
I've wondered that myself. I can understand a person not wanting kids because they don't have enough money or are too old but if it's because you dislike kids and are worried about it cramming your lifestyle, then that's a little bit selfish. What does it say about a person when they don't like kids? We were all kids at one point, it's ridiculous and a contradiction to dislike kids.
I really don't know of anyone who chose not to have kids because they dislike children. You can like children and not want to have any of your own.
I find that it's selfless to not have children. If that isn't the path you want to take in life, why bring a child into the world that you don't really want, but felt societal, familial pressure to have? Much more selfish to have a child because "that's what you do", or to preserve a family name, or to have someone to look after you when you're old. That all reeks of selfishness, because you're having a child for the wrong reasons.
Wow. It's about time this topic slowed down. There were about 3 pages of mud slinging. It started off so informative. Why is it so hard just to post what you believe about having children without attacking others? I guess this is the nature of a forum. Different personalities go to war on a battlefield where you can't reach over and smack the other person. Ok that was fun.
Only reason why i wouldn't want kids, is if I couldn't afford them.
I am thinking that a lot of people who have kids can't really afford them.... I couldn't when I was a young person. They have brought such joy to my life, I wouldn't change a thing.....
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Real mature. You need to get over yourself. I know how you always talk and act like you think you're better than everyone. Did I personally attack you or something? No.