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Old 01-09-2013, 07:37 AM
 
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will you call them racist?
Nah, its just personal preference. And sometimes a person may care about what someone say or think. But I have this homeboy, he's white, real cool. We talk about everything. He's has really good heart but he don't believe in marrying or dating outside his race. That's. his preference, and everyone is entitled to their opinion. As of me I don't have a problem with it, I think its beautiful.
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Old 01-09-2013, 07:40 AM
 
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Sucks to be them. Way to severely narrow your dating options. BORING!
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Old 01-09-2013, 07:42 AM
 
Location: Florida
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Their own preferences. Humans always stick with their own kind anyway. A lot of interracial couples would have problems anyway due to cultural differences. I'm married but if I weren't, I would only date within my race.
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Old 01-09-2013, 08:28 AM
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Nope.

I also think it's stupid to call them "close-minded". You cannot just force yourself to do something that is incompatible with your nature/disposition. And finding people attractive does not necessarily mean they are good candidates for relationships. It's natural to seek your own race and it makes a LOT of things easier for many people.
I think this is upside down. Its natural to seek difference, to find the opposite of interest. And inbreeding is biologically disfavored.

Cultural conditioning overcomes this to make the susceptible stick to "their own". Nuture fighting against nature.
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Old 01-09-2013, 08:46 AM
 
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Not sure it's racist as much as it is fear of the unknown.

But it could be also conditioning (which is basically racism, right?). If you are raised by parents/guardians that held the view that races should not mix, then it could be that you will follow that credo, too.

For me personally, race would never be the reason to say no to a suitable mate.
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Old 01-09-2013, 08:48 AM
 
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Personally, I think the chances of a relationship lasting are higher when both are of the same race.
Race doesn't equal same culture. You have a lot more in common with a third generation Korean-American than that Korean American has with a Korean because you're both culturally American. Overall I disagree, the biggest factor of a relationship lasting is how much support both people in a relationship have from their families to allow that relationship to exist.

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Depends on HOW they say it. Some folks just have their preferences. If they cant even entertain the mere thought of dating outside of their race then I'd say they are more ignorant/stupid/closed minded than anything else.
Agreed. Where I used to live, some people would make it a point not to date certain races like African-Americans for example because they were raised that way.
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Old 01-09-2013, 08:51 AM
 
Location: Sacramento, Ca.
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Same as I do about people who hate learning. Fear of the unknown.
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Old 01-09-2013, 09:01 AM
 
Location: Davenport, Iowa
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will you call them racist?
It depends on why they don't date outside of their own races.
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Old 01-09-2013, 09:25 AM
 
Location: Quakertown, Pa., USA
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I have dated women of many races but, I prefer Asian women, always have ( I'm white by the way ), I met my wife in 2008 in China when I was on vacation there, we were marrieda couple of years later, now this is not for everyone, culturally I have no problems as I have already known about the culture, my biggest problem was I didn't speak Mandarin ( I do now ) so I had a very hard time in her country when she was at work, all I am saying and taking the long way about saying it is this, it's up to each person who they wish to date / marry, it's not racist to only date your own race, I personally think they are missing out on some very wonderful people but that's for them to say, not me.
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Old 01-09-2013, 09:45 AM
 
Location: Surf city, NC
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Personal preference.

Agreed! I don't see why everyone is getting thier panties in a bunch over this.
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