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Old 03-11-2013, 06:53 PM
 
Location: Texas
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I don't disagree with that, and that is the risk a person takes by being too busy to date. I'm not saying that people should give every busy bee a chance, especially if there are people who better fit their schedules, just saying that there are actually plenty of busy people out there, not just people making excuses.
If you are too busy to do something well, don't do it.
Especially if it involves other people who may count on or whose feelings hang in the balance.
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Old 03-11-2013, 09:49 PM
 
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If you are too busy to do something well, don't do it.
Especially if it involves other people who may count on or whose feelings hang in the balance.
People exaggerate how busy they are all the time. It's not limited to online dating; it happens at work and in other situations.

If someone really was too busy to date (no matter how much they liked someone), why would they join the site? If you interpret the statement as a word literalist, the person stating that 'I stay busy and don't have time (to date)' is not qualifying that statement by saying they don't have time to date losers or ugly people. That person is saying (s)he doesn't have time to date, period. Yet, they still took the time to join a site, take the time to login and potentially pay the fee.

It's total BS. Yeah, people are busy in the sense they have duties at work and home but they prioritize their time. It's like parents when their children are having difficulty; they make time for them, because the well-being of their children is a priority.

I would say ignore a statement like that, but chances are someone making that claim is playing games to begin with. Between seeking an ego boost and an easy excuse to reject you, they're likely to not be worth your time. I saw a girl last year who wasn't the best fit for me, but she was honest and did not play games. I really appreciated it and think others would appreciate that behavior as well. It goes a long way.
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Old 03-11-2013, 09:54 PM
 
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I have seen this too many times on profiles.

If you're that busy, why are you "looking" for a relationship?


Is "being busy" some sort of a status symbol?
Use pictures of a male fitness model in your profile and see how busy the ladies are, haha! Total BS!
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Old 03-11-2013, 11:08 PM
 
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Obviously onw thing matters more than the other.

Frankly, as someone who spent a few years working 100 hours a week, I know what busy is.
And I know how you will do without one thing to go for the thing that matters most.
What I am saying is that often, it's extremely hard to choose. You really have never had tough time with that? Damn. I do...far too often. And I usually feel guilty no matter which way I go.
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Old 03-12-2013, 07:21 AM
 
Location: Texas
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What I am saying is that often, it's extremely hard to choose. You really have never had tough time with that? Damn. I do...far too often. And I usually feel guilty no matter which way I go.
No, I hear you.
It's a woman thing. We always feel pulled and we always feel responsible for not fulfilling everyone's needs.
But if this is a regular thing for you, I'd say you are in no position to add dating and the needs of THAT person into your life, either.
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Old 03-12-2013, 07:42 AM
 
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Just don't let being busy impact your life of romance, if that is something that you're after. I work with ladies who have boyfriends, and are extremely busy, yet can always make 3-4 days a week to spend with their boyfriends. You have to want to make the time in order for it to work. That may mean you miss out on a basketball game, or weekly drinks with your friends.

When I'm in a relationship, the amount of time I spend with my friends goes way down. My friends are very important to me, but I'm not trying to make out or cuddle with my friends. It's all about priorities and I still say anyone who is busy all the time, is just scared, or not ready, to put themselves out there emotionally.

There's nothing wrong with that, but don't make yourself appear available, when really you're not.
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Old 03-12-2013, 08:19 AM
 
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Just don't let being busy impact your life of romance, if that is something that you're after. I work with ladies who have boyfriends, and are extremely busy, yet can always make 3-4 days a week to spend with their boyfriends. You have to want to make the time in order for it to work. That may mean you miss out on a basketball game, or weekly drinks with your friends.

When I'm in a relationship, the amount of time I spend with my friends goes way down. My friends are very important to me, but I'm not trying to make out or cuddle with my friends. It's all about priorities and I still say anyone who is busy all the time, is just scared, or not ready, to put themselves out there emotionally.

There's nothing wrong with that, but don't make yourself appear available, when really you're not.
The point is... they're not busy all the time. It's BS.
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Old 03-12-2013, 08:35 AM
 
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The point is... they're not busy all the time. It's BS.
It's the time that we live in. A lot has changed over the last decade.
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Old 03-12-2013, 09:06 AM
 
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I have seen this too many times on profiles.

If you're that busy, why are you "looking" for a relationship?


Is "being busy" some sort of a status symbol?
People really don't have leisure time these days. People are working sometimes 2 jobs, in addition to going to school. If they have children, then that's even more time taken away.....
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Old 03-12-2013, 09:11 AM
 
Location: around racist white people
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Dating sites are a waste of time unless you're ripped with a shirtless pic or a woman.
Yep average men are toast
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