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I am pretty but chubby. Therefore I am unworthy of being loved unless I starve myself or have drastic surgery.
Doesn't matter that I treat my boyfriend like gold and adore him. I committed the ultimate sin of being fat, so I deserve to die alone.
The last wedding I went to, the bride was huge but so was the groom. I have another chubby friend who is engaged to a chubby guy. They all seem very happy.
The last wedding I went to, the bride was huge but so was the groom. I have another chubby friend who is engaged to a chubby guy. They all seem very happy.
The problem I face is that when people see I'm chubby, they assume I am unhealthy and inactive. That's just not true though. It's actually one of the contributing factors to my ending a long term relationship a year and a half ago. My ex was chubby too but completely sedentary. I couldn't take it anymore because I was scared of him dying.
I would love to find a chubby guy I could go hiking with, kayaking with, etc. But when I meet chubby cute guys they seem to want to go out with skinny hot chicks to validate themselves. Those that are into me assume that I want to sit on the couch and eat pizza all night. One guy would tell me about how he ate two Whoppers in a row. That was alarming to me.
And thin guys like my current, who is way more inactive than I and eats fast food on the regular, look down on me because I am chubby. So whatever. I'm just stepping back and giving it up to God.
The problem I face is that when people see I'm chubby, they assume I am unhealthy and inactive. That's just not true though. It's actually one of the contributing factors to my ending a long term relationship a year and a half ago. My ex was chubby too but completely sedentary. I couldn't take it anymore because I was scared of him dying.
I would love to find a chubby guy I could go hiking with, kayaking with, etc. But when I meet chubby cute guys they seem to want to go out with skinny hot chicks to validate themselves. Those that are into me assume that I want to sit on the couch and eat pizza all night. One guy would tell me about how he ate two Whoppers in a row. That was alarming to me.
And thin guys like my current, who is way more inactive than I and eats fast food on the regular, look down on me because I am chubby. So whatever. I'm just stepping back and giving it up to God.
Well, if it makes you feel any better, I am 115 lbs. and haven't been in anything even resembling a relationship for 6 years now (and that relationship pretty much sucked), so it doesn't sound like you're doing all that bad to me. Good luck though!
Well, if it makes you feel any better, I am 115 lbs. and haven't been in anything even resembling a relationship for 6 years now (and that relationship pretty much sucked), so it doesn't sound like you're doing all that bad to me. Good luck though!
Thank you, but it's hard to even get a date, let alone move on and find a relationship.
I've experienced love. Maybe I will not experience marriage or parenthood--I do not know. Regardless if love, or marriage or children come around, I just have the find ways to be humble with whatever I have in the moment. I have to concern myself less with outward expectations and be gracious for the goodness that exists at any given point. As noted in the quotation, I cannot achieve the latter if I am consumed in yearning for something that was not meant for that moment.
Given up...eh? I just need to be okay with any outcome.
Still single but considering I should start dating, form a relationship and fall-in-love with me
Honestly it's just too much drama, single life is easier.
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I need to apply my own advice....
