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Originally Posted by Jasmin71
What state makes you wait for 2 years? I never heard of that... Michigan has a 6 month wait when Kids are involved.
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I've included the list below, but wanted to add my comment, on how extremely shocked I was to see this thread this morning, when I was having a very similar conversation just last night about this.
I am not legally divorced yet. There is a 1 year waiting period in the state of Maryland. We didn't have any children, or joint property. He's as far out of my life as he can be, his previous marriage he ran from, the ex-wife ended up spending more money having the divorce finalized without his signature or cooperation, than she needed to, because he simply ran out and disappeared. He is making no effort to tie this one up either. Without wanting to hijack this thread, I'm trying to see every person as a case by case basis. I just had my heart crushed because a date I had on Sunday (who was divorced himself) did not want anything to do with me because I was still technically "some other guy's wife". I don't know how many times it felt like he was stabbing me in the stomach when he said that.. because it did a number on me. My ex was mentally, emotionally, and physically abusive and manipulative to me, and every day that I'm gone I get down on my knees and thank God for having the family to support me through when I left him. I can survive on my own, but I am lonely.
This thread supports the notion that you should not involve yourself with anyone that the divorce is not finalized with, because "at any point" the couple could reunite and reconcile their relationship. Can this not be said of couples that weren't married? With that same notion, you shouldn't date anyone that had a previous serious relationship... because "at any point" the couple could reunite and reconcile their relationship as well.
I don't think you can set the same precedents for everyone. I for one, will play the devil's advocate here, in saying there is no right or wrong answer. Because I for one, cry myself to sleep at night lately, wondering if being previously
(and regrettably continually) married to the worst mistake of my life, will indeed be one I continue to pay for the rest of my life.
To coin a phrase,
Take gentle care.
Alabama- No statutory requirement
Alaska- No statutory requirement
Arizona- No statutory requirement
Arkansas- 18 months prior to decree
California -No statutory requirement
Colorado- No statutory requirement
Connecticut- 18 months before filing
Delaware- 6 months prior to decree
District of Columbia- 6 months before filing
Florida- No statutory requirement
Georgia- No statutory requirement
Hawaii- No statutory requirement
Idaho- No statutory requirement
Illinois- 6 months prior to decree
Indiana- No statutory requirement
Iowa- No statutory requirement
Kansas- No statutory requirement
Kentucky- 60 days prior to decree
Louisiana- 180 days before filing
Maine- No statutory requirement
Maryland- 12 months before filing
Massachusetts- No statutory requirement
Michigan- No statutory requirement
Minnesota- No statutory requirement
Mississippi- No statutory requirement
Missouri- No statutory requirement
Montana- 180 days before filing
Nebraska- No statutory requirement
Nevada- 1 year before filing
New Hampshire- No statutory requirement
New Jersey- 18 months prior to decree
New Mexico- No statutory requirement
New York- 1 year prior to decree
North Carolina- 1 year prior to decree
North Dakota- No statutory requirement
Ohio- 1 year prior to decree
Oklahoma- No statutory requirement
Oregon- No statutory requirement
Pennsylvania- No statutory requirement
Rhode Island- No statutory requirement
South Carolina- 1 year prior to decree
South Dakota- No statutory requirement
Tennessee- No statutory requirement
Texas- No statutory requirement
Utah- No statutory requirement
Vermont- 6 months prior to decree
Virginia- 6 months prior to decree
Washington- No statutory requirement
West Virginia- 1 year prior to decree
Wisconsin- No statutory requirement
Wyoming- No statutory requirement