Would you "go for" someone who had been divorced four times? (sociopath, how to)
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I have an distant uncle in my family, he is on his fourth wife, She is ugly, compared to the other, but then again, He had many chances to do with all kinds of women,......ewhhhhh. Depends on the age gap, and differences.
Nope I would not do 4 times divorced No way I think he has a problem . really ? you think there was something wrong with all those women ? NO !!! it is him .
A close friend of my wife is in her late 40s and has fallen in love with a recently divorced man. We met them for lunch and they seem very much in love by how they communicate with each other. After 9 months there is talk about marriage. I would say go for it because they seem compatible and seem like a couple but then I found out he had been married and divorced four times. He must be able to charm the women but can't stay with them.
What do you think of men or women who have been married and divorced multiple times? How many divorces would raise a red flag? 2, 3, 4, 5, or more?
I am sure each of his ex wives thought their relationship would be different! But the ending was the same. But maybe my wife's friend, #5 will be the exception.
I know women and men that have been divorced 4 or five times, My husband said he might have tried one more if he had been allowed a divorce in 1987. He said if that one did not work he was going to a rent a wife for a night, he is making me mad right now, I know we haven't had sex in a very long time, and yes I had an affair, he did not. But he told me a few minutes ago he might as well try a rent a sex. It hurts my feelings and we are just trying to show what he earns when he wont compromise I told his father I was afraid of what will happen when he comes home from rehab. He will tell me its time for the first payment, last year was a down payment, and memorial day was a late fee
Reading some of these replies makes me wonder how many of you are actually married. Not to be rude or anything but when you live day to day ...year to year....people change. You marry one person at a young age and that may not be the same person you're married to in 20 years. Me...I'm in the process of getting my 2nd divorce. Got married the first time when I was 23...we dated for 5 years, married for 2. He was a druggy and was headed downhill. Second time around, lived with my husband for a year, married for 20. 10 of those years for horrible. He's narcissistic and abusive. He ended up cheating and I caught him. After I got over the shock, I realized it was a HUGE blessing to be out of it.
NOW... I've learned so much about myself from those experiences in the past 30 years. I cannot imagine meeting someone and them saying... "I can no longer date you knowing you've been divorced 2x". My reaction would be "F OFF!" simply for judging me by that.
Assumptions are a dangerous thing. You NEVER know what someone's life experiences have been like. Maybe they didn't make the best partner choices or maybe they're a complete *******. If it's a true spiritual connection they feel, then they will probably discuss what happened and what was learned from it. Part of truly being in love is being vulnerable to your partner.... thus...trusting them to tell you about their mistakes and trusting them with insecurities you may have about THEIR past.
Reading some of these replies makes me wonder how many of you are actually married. Not to be rude or anything but when you live day to day ...year to year....people change. You marry one person at a young age and that may not be the same person you're married to in 20 years. Me...I'm in the process of getting my 2nd divorce. Got married the first time when I was 23...we dated for 5 years, married for 2. He was a druggy and was headed downhill. Second time around, lived with my husband for a year, married for 20. 10 of those years for horrible. He's narcissistic and abusive. He ended up cheating and I caught him. After I got over the shock, I realized it was a HUGE blessing to be out of it.
NOW... I've learned so much about myself from those experiences in the past 30 years. I cannot imagine meeting someone and them saying... "I can no longer date you knowing you've been divorced 2x". My reaction would be "F OFF!" simply for judging me by that.
Assumptions are a dangerous thing. You NEVER know what someone's life experiences have been like. Maybe they didn't make the best partner choices or maybe they're a complete *******. If it's a true spiritual connection they feel, then they will probably discuss what happened and what was learned from it. Part of truly being in love is being vulnerable to your partner.... thus...trusting them to tell you about their mistakes and trusting them with insecurities you may have about THEIR past.
Once? No problem. Everybody makes a mistake.
Twice? Hmmm. Well, lightning can strike twice.
But four times? A definite lack of wisdom and judgment at work.
A cousin of mine "went for" a man who was divorced around 3-4 times. They've been together now for nearly 10 years.
And they were speedy divorces - Each of his marriages with the exes lasted about 1-3 years.
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Don't make assumptions
