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Old 03-13-2014, 06:19 PM
 
Location: Riverside Ca
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If that's the case, how did people fall for each other and got engaged without having sex first in the past?

It was called arranged marriage.
If you think people didn't fool around before marriage even back in ancient times you're a fool yourself. They may of acted prim and proper but there was a lot of fooling around. They were smarter and hid it better

My wife and I knew each other fir a few months spent time together. We started seriously dating. We had sex 3 months into our relationship and were dating for another 3-4 then we hit engaged. 1 year after engagement we were married. I've been married for 19 years together for 20something.
Feel free to wait as long as you want before sex. Don't expect the guy to wait forever.
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Old 03-13-2014, 06:21 PM
 
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I don't blame you for liking kissing people who you find attractive, I do too, but the kissing combined with their attractiveness makes me horny. It's hard to separate it all.
Well I'm not saying that I don't get aroused but I can still just leave it at that. I don't look for sexual um...release from guys. I mean, it'd be nice but it's never happened so I don't expect it.
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Old 03-13-2014, 06:21 PM
 
Location: SF Bay Area
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I just like kissing people who I find attractive but it's not because I'm horny. I'm perfectly fine with doing that and not having it lead to sex.
I think what srjth is getting at is if you feel you can't (or aren't able to) make an emotional connection with a person, why kiss/make out? What do you feel when making out with someone? intimacy? connection? trust? anything?

srjth, slap me if I'm offbase.
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Old 03-13-2014, 06:24 PM
 
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My wife and I knew each other fir a few months spent time together. We started seriously dating. We had sex 3 months into our relationship and were dating for another 3-4 then we hit engaged. 1 year after engagement we were married. I've been married for 19 years together for 20something.
Feel free to wait as long as you want before sex. Don't expect the guy to wait forever.
This is storybook. <3
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Old 03-13-2014, 06:25 PM
 
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I think what srjth is getting at is if you feel you can't (or aren't able to) make an emotional connection with a person, why kiss/make out? What do you feel when making out with someone? intimacy? connection? trust? anything?
I just find it fun. I wouldn't say there's anything deeper going on. I have made out with people who I barely knew.
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Old 03-13-2014, 06:27 PM
 
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I think what srjth is getting at is if you feel you can't (or aren't able to) make an emotional connection with a person, why kiss/make out? What do you feel when making out with someone? intimacy? connection? trust? anything?

srjth, slap me if I'm offbase.
You're not offbase.

I hate to mention this, but I remember SLS saying that she watches porn a lot. Porn kind of misses that.

SLS, slap me of I'm offbase.
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Old 03-13-2014, 06:29 PM
 
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Well I'm not saying that I don't get aroused but I can still just leave it at that. I don't look for sexual um...release from guys. I mean, it'd be nice but it's never happened so I don't expect it.
Did I read the thread and remember it correctly that you have done everything with a man except for intercourse? Yet a man has never given you an orgasm? Yep I can understand why you wouldn't expect or look forward to anything more. I hope you have spent time with selfish crappy lovers so far and that one day you will have a positive experience.
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Old 03-13-2014, 06:30 PM
 
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You're not offbase.

I hate to mention this, but I remember SLS saying that she watches porn a lot. Porn kind of misses that.

SLS, slap me of I'm offbase.
I've watched a lot of it over the years but no more than once or twice a week at this point in my life. But it is something that I like more than actually being physical with men.
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Old 03-13-2014, 06:33 PM
 
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Did I read the thread and remember it correctly that you have done everything with a man except for intercourse? Yet a man has never given you an orgasm? Yep I can understand why you wouldn't expect or look forward to anything more. I hope you have spent time with selfish crappy lovers so far and that one day you will have a positive experience.
They did try to pleasure me. They weren't selfish. Just didn't work. lol
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Old 03-13-2014, 06:33 PM
 
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Well I'm not saying that I don't get aroused but I can still just leave it at that. I don't look for sexual um...release from guys. I mean, it'd be nice but it's never happened so I don't expect it.
How come it's never happened? Is it because you stop or they stop?
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