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I'm not like tyc though, I don't want marriage, just a relationship that comes from a close friendship. I don't feel comfortable asking out strangers. Plus I wouldn't normally have feelings for a random stranger or someone on OLD.
I wouldn't worry about what people say. Your choice to be a virgin because of religious or personal beliefs. Doesn't mean you're gonna be a sexual deviant because you haven't porked 25 girls and gotten a few pregnant by now.
And please don't go to a prostitute to lose it. You'll regret it. Not only for losing it to a hooker, but you may just pick up a gift that keeps on giving for the rest of your life.
I wouldn't worry about what people say. Your choice to be a virgin because of religious or personal beliefs. Doesn't mean you're gonna be a sexual deviant because you haven't porked 25 girls and gotten a few pregnant by now.
And please don't go to a prostitute to lose it. You'll regret it. Not only for losing it to a hooker, but you may just pick up a gift that keeps on giving for the rest of your life.
Oh please, come down off the high horse. What, you couldn't hang on to yours so you want to live vicariously through someone else? . A hooker is no more or less likely to give someone an STD than someone who isn't charging by the hour. And while I am at it... every 54 year old virgin was once a 24 year old virgin. Why would it be weird at 54 to be a virgin and not 24? It is completely outside of parameters to be a virgin at any age after 18 or so, but after age 21 the divergence factor starts to increase exponentially. If one is still a virgin in their 30's chances are good that they will remain that way for the remainder. That is certainly no crime.. nor is it particularly weird. A little sad, maybe, but not that weird. The problem, as I see it, is that Americans are all closet Puritans. There is a collective shame that smothers everyone who gave in to the primal urge to shag. We deify those who so far have remained pure, in body, even if not in spirit. We wish we could be like them. Rather than encourage them to come over to our side we cajole them to stay on theirs. Friends... that is the textbook definition of hypocrisy. There is nothing sweet or innocent, or good or noble about remaining a virgin once it is clear that the plumbing is ready for it. Pregnancy, STD's, rejection.... yes these risks are there.... there is also great risk of death and or dismemberment from being in a car accident... that never stops anyone from encouraging young people to get their learner's permits. I can't say I've ever seen anyone encourage a young person to become sexually active. Hmmmmm.
Location: "Silicon Valley" (part of San Francisco Bay Area, California, USA)
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Leisesturm, sometimes it isn't entirely a choice, though. I have met five or sex people to whom I would have lost my virginity. None of them felt the same way toward me. "Dating" doesn't really interest me because 99.9999% of the women I come into contact with -- all but those six so far -- are people to whom I am sexually attracted yet for whom I feel no romantic desire. This includes women whose profiles I see on OLD. I might feel the desire to have sex with them, but there is no desire to spend time with them for romantic purposes. The latter is very rare for me. Plus I would want to be friends first, for months or years, then FWB, then it might be an LTR if it persists for a long period of time. I don't really understand the "date 3 times and then have sex" paradigm. To me that's still casual sex.
I wouldn't worry about what people say. Your choice to be a virgin because of religious or personal beliefs. Doesn't mean you're gonna be a sexual deviant because you haven't porked 25 girls and gotten a few pregnant by now.
And please don't go to a prostitute to lose it. You'll regret it. Not only for losing it to a hooker, but you may just pick up a gift that keeps on giving for the rest of your life.
A prostitute hasn't even been a thought for me. That simply is something I'd never want to do, to be honest. I'd hope to never go that route. I know what my desired options are, and I'm looking to stick to it. I'm looking to be celibate unless I were to get married.
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