Woman goes undercover as man for 18 months, decides women have it far easier in dating/relationships (family, separate)
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Originally Posted by Petunia 100
What are FBs? What is the distinction from FWBs?
Just what they say. A F Buddy is (FB) someone who isn't really a friend. It's someone you hang out with just to have sex. Maybe some drinks, then you go bang. When the benefits are over, they cease being someone you talk to or hang out with.
A FWB (friends with benefits) is someone that is really a friend. Even when you're no longer having sex (for whatever reason) you still hang out and do stuff. There is a caring for them. The benefits part is in addition to the friendship and not the basis for it.
F*** buddies. They're people who strictly hook up with with absolute no strings attached. You go over for sex and leave immediately after the deed is done.
FWBs are people who you sleep with, but also enjoy spending time together doing other things. But the agreement is usually that you keep it pretty casual and if it starts getting serious between either of the parties, you will take a break from the arrangement or completely break it off altogether.
FWB are actual friends who connect on a platonic level... but still have sex. Their emotional connection is deeper for each other because they are truly friends.
FB is a bang, a hookup, or someone you know well but only sleep with and have no other involvement with outside of the bedroom
Wait, school and work (which people pretty much all people are youths and adults (pre senior years)) aren't indicative of society as a whole? People are either at school, or working (or both), so yeah, I'd say they are great indicators.
Everyone sleeps at some point, too, but you can't use that as an indicator of how our lives are.
In my convention days (who are we kidding? In my YOUNGER convention days), I'd walk around and see like a 100:1 male:female ratio and think "where the hell are all the women?". Obviously they're somewhere, doing something, but they weren't around me. Then I'd attend something else (I think I had this epiphany at a dance class) and think "oh! HERE'S where all the women are!".
The point is, at any given time, when you're looking at a group of people (whether they're at work, school, or wherever), there are a LOT of people someplace else. Maybe they're doing the same thing, maybe they're not. I simply think that any view of that sort isn't a strong indicator. It certainly feels that way to us, of course.
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Originally Posted by timberline742
I think you got those mixed up, no? FWBs are very common. Straight FBs are pretty uncommon. People don't keep sleeping with people they don't like hanging out with. They're not really interchangeable, IMO.
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You're not ugly; you're average. With the right personality and attitude, average can be very cute. Just sayin'.
You might be right I don't know. It is definitely true that when the financial and logistical issues are resolved, I will be generally happier. That might make it easier to transition from friends to lovers with someone. Right now it's hard to be positive. I'm trying, it's hard though.
Just what they say. A F Buddy is (FB) someone who isn't really a friend. It's someone you hang out with just to have sex. Maybe some drinks, then you go bang. When the benefits are over, they cease being someone you talk to or hang out with.
A FWB (friends with benefits) is someone that is really a friend. Even when you're no longer having sex (for whatever reason) you still hang out and do stuff. There is a caring for them. The benefits part is in addition to the friendship and not the basis for it.
OK, disregard my previous post. I stick by what I wrote....using your post, I'd argue that FB are common and FWB are not (and, as mentioned, I call them both FWB)
As someone that dated when they were in their early 20's the gals held the power.
When I dated around age 40....not so....probably even tilted in the guys favor a little bit and it just gets more and more in the guys favor from that age up.
Just a *general* observation true in many but not all cases.
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I wrote it how I meant it, in an attempt to appeal to the views of this demographic. But the definition of FWB that I get around here usually seems to imply a very deep friendship. Maybe I'm wrong in interpreting how people here view them.
To me that's what it would mean. Although a lot of people interpret FWB to mean "person you have NSA sex with on a regular basis, and don't interact with them much if all, apart from the sex." :-O
So I wouldn't want an FWB if that was all it was. However I would be very interested in having a close female friend with whom I occasionally had sex. To me that's a relationship, in some sense.
As someone that dated when they were in their early 20's the gals held the power.
When I dated around age 40....not so....probably even tilted in the guys favor a little bit and it just gets more and more in the guys favor from that age up.
Just a *general* observation true in many but not all cases.
This has also been my experience, and why life has gotten so awesome between my 20's and today, at 35.
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