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Going on a 4th date in an hour and we still have not had sex. She says she wants to get to know me before we become an official couple. I happen agree with her and I respect her decision.
That's nice, 49ersfan. I'm happy for you. Although you haven't had sex yet, you still seem to be moving pretty fast in every other way. Isn't this your 4th date in 5 days? Slow the train down, cowboy. Give her a chance to miss you!
That's nice, 49ersfan. I'm happy for you. Although you haven't had sex yet, you still seem to be moving pretty fast in every other way. Isn't this your 4th date in 5 days? Slow the train down, cowboy. Give her a chance to miss you!
She's going out of town for about 3 days, and she wanted to go out again before she left.
I got pregnant using an IUD. I was in a 4 year long exclusive relationship at that point so we were not using condoms. Plus, it was 26 years ago, before the term "safe sex" was a household word.
I find it perplexing how people will jump quickly into a sexual relationship with people they barely know, yet many of the same posters feel that they need to date someone 3 to 5 years (or longer) before they would even think about marriage. I find that puzzling. I guess for some people, having a stranger penetrate their body in the most intimate way possible, is less scary than making a commitment. Seems backwards to me, but it's interesting to learn how some people think.
I guess for many people today, sex is not that special and no big thing.
It's sad actually. I know people that think having kids without marriage is smarter than marriage.
Many women can't handle hormonal birth control and IUDs come with risks. They rely on condoms, just like men.
And some women, like me, have simply never liked the idea of putting hormones into our bodies. When I was dating before I met my ex-husband years ago, there was no way in hell I was gonna do it for any guy I wasn't serious about, and I resented the expectation that I was. Because, like, don't ALL "modern" young women go on the pill? It's our "right," after all, isn't it?
I just said, Eff this, and I went off the pill after a very short time. And with that decision, I HAD to be very discerning about who I was going to have sex with.
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I am seeing people saying 2 or 3 dates???? WOW. If someone "gives up the goods" after 2 dates then their list of sexual partners must get very very long in really short order. I haven't dated in well over 20 years now, but I don't think I would want to marry a woman who gave it up after just two dates. I am so glad I am not coming up nowadays, feel sorry for those who are. When I was dating 2 or 3 dates meant some hand holding followed by some kissing. If it lead to more you were talking months and months, or until you were engaged. Most women were really concerned with keeping their reputation clean. No one is perfect, we all make mistakes but I think todays society has let this go to far.
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Gave it up? It isn't like sex is some sort of prize that is given to those that earn it. What an absurd, antiquated, notion. This idea that sex is dirty or somehow someone doesn't have a "clean" reputation really needs to be buried once and for all.
In fact I've only heard it from people on this board in over 10 years.
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