How many dates do you wait for the hanky panky (American, partner)
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And so is food, but it's important to be conscientious about what kind of food we consume, as well. Eating is about more than basic sustenance; it's one of the great joys of life, and quality ingredients and careful preparation matter. I'm very selective about who I have sex with, as I am about the food I eat.
"Slow" food trumps fast food. It's far more enjoyable and satisfying.
I think sex should be an expression of love and intimacy between two or more people who love each other and care about other, and I don't see how that is established after having met someone a couple times with no contact in between.
I know that to explain who I am and what my history is and how I feel about things and how I experience life would take a lot more than 2 or 3 dates.
Desire for sex is biologically encoded in human beings though. So, I mean, they're going to get it from somewhere. Would you be comfortable with all that while you're potentially taking years just to be their friends before any benefits? And with that, you're also at risk of losing them to someone else.
I don't think relationships have to be built on sex. But it can be an important part of any relationship, whether it's the beginning, middle, or end.
If only some people put even half as much thought into every other type of compatibility needed for a good relationship, beyond sexual compatibility...
Ive seen this discussed on so many forums. kinda surprised to not see a thread here in the first 3 pages or so.
Not that there is a cold hard fast timeline, and yes some situations are different...byt how long do you wait before you realize it aint gonna happen,a nd either enter friend zone or move on?
For me, it was 3 dates. If the girl wasn't willing to kiss me good night, I took that as an indicator and I was done after first date. But by the 3rd date, if hanky panky wasn't happening I was done.
What about you???
Anywhere from one to one hundred and one everyone has there own comfort level for intimate encounters.
Nah. The only difference between 30 years ago, heck even 70 years ago, is that premarital sex was less socially acceptable. It still happened. A lot. But it was kept quiet. Which is worse: people having sex (often times unprotected because of the stigma of purchasing contraceptives)... or people having sex and being honest about it?
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Originally Posted by danielj72
Just 30 years ago very few would question the moral standards regarding pre marital sexual relations. Now everything is up for question, and anything goes. Something else that would not have happened even 20 years ago is the shear number of people who question the existence of God. I really cannot stand the 21rst century or its values. Clearly the millennial generation has embraced a whole new set of values that I just don't get and all I am doing is offending people like you. That is not what I am trying to do and it seems counterproductive so Ill just let it go. Have a nice day.
Nah. The only difference between 30 years ago, heck even 70 years ago, is that premarital sex was less socially acceptable. It still happened. A lot. But it was kept quiet. Which is worse: people having sex (often times unprotected because of the stigma of purchasing contraceptives)... or people having sex and being honest about it?
^^ All this. Lol some people must think premarital sex and 'hanky panky' are something unique to this generation. It always happened, now people just aren't getting pregnant and rushing into marriage because of unplanned pregnancies.
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Originally Posted by Lafleur
Desire for sex is biologically encoded in human beings though. So, I mean, they're going to get it from somewhere. Would you be comfortable with all that while you're potentially taking years just to be their friends before any benefits? And with that, you're also at risk of losing them to someone else.
Well, I can get sex from myself though. What I need from other people is companionship, support, intimacy, etc. And unfortunately I have never had that.
But yes the only way I would feel comfortable is if I knew them in a platonic context for months or years first. I'm interested in exotic activities but I want to do them with someone in a meaningful context. It's hard because I am not good at parties/social gatherings since I am shy. That did improve with the experiment for which I volunteered at Stanford University. I don't know, right now my social exposure is limited for the practical reasons I always identify: insufficient job, no car/don't know how to drive, renting a living room.
My hours just got cut back at work, too. Not because of something I did but because the client's requirements have changed. I need to find something better. There are many negative things in my life right now so it can be hard to stay positive but I do try.
Yep. At my old job, my co-workers were a good 25-30 years older than me, and they used to tell me how so many of their generation and their parents' generation had 8lb "preemies". Meaning, they rushed to the alter and fudged the due date to match the time frame of a honeymoon baby.
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Originally Posted by TenorSax83
^^ All this. Lol some people must think premarital sex and 'hanky panky' are something unique to this generation. It always happened, now people just aren't getting pregnant and rushing into marriage because of unplanned pregnancies.
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