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If there is chemistry and attraction it almost always started and ended with kissing on the first date. That was a big deal to me. If he wasn't a great kisser then it was a no-go.
Sex usually happened by the third or fourth date, sometimes, like with my husband, date two.
Agreed here. In addition, if you wanna wait for sex you are also branded as playing games, being manipulative, have daddy/mommy issues, or a believer in fairytales.
Back in older days waiting was respectful. Now, it's considered shameful and immature, and being a virgin past 18 is considered weird, late, frigid, and with essay and studies going around saying that being a virgin up to a certain point causes mental or physical damage. Then, if you're a man that doesn't want a woman that's slept around alot, you'll be called sexist and stuck up and accused of thinking women shouldn't be sexual or should be repressed.
I see nothing wrong with a man wanting someone less experienced assuming he as as well. My issue is when a guy wants a virgin or close to it but he's slept around.
I see nothing wrong with a man wanting someone less experienced assuming he as as well. My issue is when a guy wants a virgin or close to it but he's slept around.
I would agree. With something like that, best not to be hypocritical. But I mean guys who carry themselves in the same way. They don't sleep around, and they don't care for having a SO that has slept around. But having sex inside relationships I don't think is "sleeping around." Because chances are, both parties won't be virgins.
But it's a middle between total virgin who hasn't done anything, even gotten to 2nd base and completely promiscuous where they have different partners every week.
I see nothing wrong with a man wanting someone less experienced assuming he as as well. My issue is when a guy wants a virgin or close to it but he's slept around.
Same here. Some of us actually want to mutually share this unique one time experience with the woman we want to spend the rest of our lives with. Finding like minded women these days is hard, especially if they are in their 30's - 40's+, but I have met some. A prize to behold like finding a unicorn.
Agreed here. In addition, if you wanna wait for sex you are also branded as playing games, being manipulative, have daddy/mommy issues, or a believer in fairytales.
Back in older days waiting was respectful. Now, it's considered shameful and immature, and being a virgin past 18 is considered weird, late, frigid, and with essay and studies going around saying that being a virgin up to a certain point causes mental or physical damage. Then, if you're a man that doesn't want a woman that's slept around alot, you'll be called sexist and stuck up and accused of thinking women shouldn't be sexual or should be repressed.
I agree. There are still people, myself included, who value and respect those who wait instead of trying to pressure them into doing something many regret later when the right one finally shows up. The current popular propaganda is that “everybody†is supposedly doing it, when this is not true, and those that refrain are somehow flawed, which is also not true. Despite all the hype guys respect women that wait and are not “easy†especially when they meet someone special enough to marry.
I would agree. With something like that, best not to be hypocritical. But I mean guys who carry themselves in the same way. They don't sleep around, and they don't care for having a SO that has slept around. But having sex inside relationships I don't think is "sleeping around." Because chances are, both parties won't be virgins.
But it's a middle between total virgin who hasn't done anything, even gotten to 2nd base and completely promiscuous where they have different partners every week.
I would agree. I was just thinking of some posts we see here where a guy wants a virgin but he's nowherer near that because to him men don't have to be.
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Same here. Some of us actually want to mutually share this unique one time experience with the woman we want to spend the rest of our lives with. Finding like minded women these days is hard, especially if they are in their 30's - 40's+, but I have met some. A prize to behold like finding a unicorn.
Not to put you on the spot but are you an older virgin? I respect older virgins. I prefer them over someone with more experience. I'm not a virgin but wish I was and had saved it for my husband. I haven't had sex in almost 20 years and won't have it until marriage.
Just 30 years ago very few would question the moral standards regarding pre marital sexual relations. Now everything is up for question, and anything goes. Something else that would not have happened even 20 years ago is the shear number of people who question the existence of God.
The internet has allowed the big city lifestyle to bleed into suburban and rural America. While some people think everyone has been open about sex for 40 years, the truth is the majority of Americans are getting familiarized with sex being an open topic in the last 20.
I would agree. I was just thinking of some posts we see here where a guy wants a virgin but he's nowherer near that because to him men don't have to be.
Not to put you on the spot but are you an older virgin? I respect older virgins. I prefer them over someone with more experience. I'm not a virgin but wish I was and had saved it for my husband. [I]I haven't had sex in almost 20 years and won't have it until marriage.
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I respect and wish you all the best in this.
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