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Be whatever it is that you want to be (I can't see the word because it is blocked).
No one can tell you why this guy did what he did but him and he already told you.
It is now your decision to turn around, walk away and not look back.
If you don't that is your issue alone and no one else can fix it for you.
So move on or don't just don't blame anyone else for your choice
and quit fussing about him making his choice.
You're being really dramatic. How invested are you in someone after TWO dates even if they were great dates. I understand being disappointed. Anyone would be, but not to this level and feeling wronged. This man didn't lead you on. He decided for whatever reason as is his right that he didn't wish to see you anymore and he even did the respectful thing which was to let you know he didn't want to continue instead of ghosting on you which is what most people do these days. You were an active participants in the kissing, cuddling, hand holding. If you didn't want to be that close after only one or two dates, then that's on you to find out what he's looking for first or to tell him to slow down.
I get that, but if he was interested in another woman, why would he go on 2 back to back dates with me, kiss me, hold my hand, etc.?? Is it the norm when not being exclusive to date more than 1 woman and kiss all of them?
Because he was trying to see how far you'd go. That's his m.o. He fakes the chemistry to see if you fall for it, and you did. The key part of the m.o. is to announce from the get-go that he's not a player, to gain your trust. See how that works? Sorry, OP. You bought into classic player strategy.
I sympathize with the OP. Sometimes it's difficult to keep a clear head and not get ahead of yourself when you meet someone that you think you've clicked with and that there might be something to this.
I've been on a few of those dates myself--you have a lot in common, conversation just flows, you're having a great time, there's making out involved--and then in a day or two you get the "You're great, but..." call or text. It's a bummer, and it's okay to be bummed out about it. But at the end of the day, you didn't know this guy, and he doesn't owe you a thing.
Go back on that dating site find another guy and forget this one. If you're a woman and remotely attractive it's very easy to get a date in the OLD world, so use it to your advantage! Best way to get over someone is to get under someone else! (Or in your case kiss someone else).
Who knows why he was acting so into you on the date, but in my experience unless you're totally repulsed by the person, for the most part dates go pretty well whether there is chemistry or not, sometimes it's what goes on in between the dates that is most telling (i.e. Contact, phone calls, etc).
You're being really dramatic. How invested are you in someone after TWO dates even if they were great dates. I understand being disappointed. Anyone would be, but not to this level and feeling wronged.
Agreed. 2 dates with someone (which at most were probably ~2-4 hours total) is a drop in the bucket for time in your life. Heal your emotions, take it as a learning experience and move on to the next person. You will meet someone even better
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