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I went through that multiple times (but no kissing) and got told I am beautiful, better looking as my pic, best first/second date ever, we are sooo compatible, blablablabla.
And then he dropped off the earth and I wondered where it went wrong and what I said that turned him off.
Excellent points! You can be annoyed or upset for a moment that it didn't work out, but trying to figure out why is a waste if time.
As an aside, she dodged a bullet if this complete stranger, that she had two dates with in less than 48 hours, thought she should have put out by then or it was a waste of time.
Without knowing either party involved I am going to guess that the guy wasn't just trying to get into her pants or he wouldn't have broken it off so easily. He could have strung her along if he was just trying to get laid.
He didn't do that, he told her it wouldn't work out and he moved on.
I'm sorry this happened to you. Yes, it does hurt to be led on. Poor form on his part with no good excuse for it.
I recently read an article on ghosting, an increasingly common practice where someone simply disappears in the dating process with no explanation or apparent reason. It's both lazy and cruel.
You've been around this forum for a long time and I like you a lot. You're smart and strong. Hopefully you'll brush it off and feel better soon.
I'm someone that goes by intuition and that if I see a good thing, I would rather stay there and not go on until I realize to move on. I guess my attitude is unrealistic. Would like to meet someone who is more like me but I don't think that's likely.
Okay thanks guys. When I date I will kiss everyone then since apparently that's what people do.
No one says kiss everyone, but it is a good indicator to feel out physical attraction and chemistry.... but similar to sleeping with someone, kissing someone does not mean you're exclusive nor does sleeping with someone. It's just usually pretty safe to assume that the person is seeing other people until you've had that exclusivity conversation.
Overall, it just seems like you've dodged a bullet as that guy doesn't have the values that you have (which is more important than liking the same things).
I get that, but if he was interested in another woman, why would he go on 2 back to back dates with me, kiss me, hold my hand, etc.?? Is it the norm when not being exclusive to date more than 1 woman and kiss all of them?
I'm guessing that you weren't the only woman he was going on intense dates with, kissing, and handholding with (and whatever else).
Is it typical? Dunno. But it likely happened. Other fish on the line.
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