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Yep, it seems like there is an assumption that she didn't work late at all, but just said she worked late and instead did other things. Not sure how this conclusion was arrived at, however.
Because there are lots of sickos out there who would call their spouse every 15 minutes and tell her to come home and ruin the shopping/bar evening she wants to have every once in a while.
While this is true (I've been on the receiving end of this kind of controlling behavior) there are also selfish people who don't think to communicate clearly/don't care (been on the receiving end of that).
I don't think any of us can tell from this hearsay account of this couple what's going on... if the husband is the controlling sort that the wife feels needs to be lied to in order to get some space every now and then; if the wife is inconsiderate and a poor communicator; or if it's a combination of both or even neither.
This only happens twice a year. I really doubt there is some guy on the side who waits every 6 months for a hook up. that thinking is a bit paranoid.. if it happened every 6 days, yeah, maybe. But not twice a year.
What I do know is that these two need to sit down and clearly communicate with each other and work this out. Tell each other what they expect and how the actions of the other makes them feel. Then work on a solution that works for both of them... a compromise.
"I'm leaving in 10 minutes" implies she's coming home, not "I'm leaving in 10 minutes to go shopping and have dinner and drinks, and by the way you should make yourself some dinner because it should be obvious by now that I am not cooking tonight."
To me it seems like the husband is needy or controlling so the poor wife has to find an excuse to go have fun with a coworker every six months.
The fact that she has to lie to be able to spend an evening without him and him wanting to dump her for that says a lot.
Thats the impression I got. The "To say he is pissed is an understatement. He is actually talking about leaving her over this he is so upset." pushed me in that direction.
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So a woman lies to her husband, and its him who is doing something wrong? So typical. How about honesty to begin with? Women are not children, they are adults and need to take responsibility for their actions.
It could go either way. I've seen men tell little lies or do the avoidance thing because their wife was so controlling a byotchy it was just easier than being up front.
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While this is true (I've been on the receiving end of this kind of controlling behavior) there are also selfish people who don't think to communicate clearly/don't care (been on the receiving end of that).
I don't think any of us can tell from this hearsay account of this couple what's going on... if the husband is the controlling sort that the wife feels needs to be lied to in order to get some space every now and then; if the wife is inconsiderate and a poor communicator; or if it's a combination of both or even neither.
While I can see the husband being a bit upset, to think about divorce over this seems a little extreme.
Granted what she did was rude and uncalled for, but it doesn't warrant divorce, especially if there are kids involved. I think the husband's ego is a bit bruised and he's lashing out.
Why are you keeping tabs on your coworker's wife again?
That is I am thinking
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